I havent read all the replies,,, but sweetpie, why the hell do u not let him know what ur looking for to start with?? if u both stated seeing each other with nothing in mind at the start, the guy is just gona think, okay,, its a fling,,, so what, enjoy it while u can........
why dont u let them know when you start off that ur basically looking for a life partner.. and if things start going well,,, keep making it clearer and clearer,, and u shud be considering guys who are genuinely "looking" too, not just single guys. I blame it all on ur stupidity, because you shouldv known better. Dont give in to someone charming just cos hes charming.... find out what hes looking for, and let him know what u are looking for too,,, and then with time, if u both think ur okay for each other,, make things official and put a chain around his neck,, otherwise.. u,ll keep getting played over, again and again.
well i,m sorry sweetpie, wrong assumption on my part... but was the guy "ready" as well?... was he genuinely "looking" too? cos if u both were... then this question wouldnt be weird to him at all... infact, u both would be discussing stuff like that all along,,, about how you like think this way to go after marriage,, i,m not saying strictly you two, talking about your marriage with each other,, but in gerenal,, like hay wen i have kids, i,ll send em to this school, or i,d like to settle here, and i,d want to raise em like this or that.. etc. etc. so it shudntv been a total shock for him,, if he was seriously looking for a life partner too, like u were.
Aren’t you the same sweetpie who lured me into showing you my pic and when I reluctantly sent it, you called me a mexican looking kaala paki who is not fair enough to be paired up with an olive skinned greek goddess?.
funguy- lol good one! Yeah now that 'sweet'pie sounds a lot more familiar!
Something tells me we are not always getting the full story here.
Sweetpie you do seriously need to change your priorities ... not just in what you are looking for... but perhaps a change in your own behavior and how you treat others too ...especially when you don't get things your way!
Also don't always be in such a rush to get into a serious relationship with someone. Take things slow. What's the hurry anyways? I think this is one of the biggest mistakes you must be making.
You can't make someone like you or want the same thing as you. It has to be mutual and come naturally.
Yes, in this case the guy was a major jerk not to respect your feelings and respond to you so rudely. So the complaint regarding him is valid.
Back to the rest of things I wrote....
I can only be honest and straight with you because you have always been that way with me in the past ... and though sometimes the truth may not always be what want we want to hear ..but coming from a friend I would expect nothing less.
Learn from your mistakes. Surely after meeting so many jerks you are able to spot them more easily each time.
well, about the thread. i remember a few months ago you posted a similar thread, was it the same guy?
anyway, as someone said above, its just insecurities that make ppl act weird at times, so dont get stressed out over the way a person acts or behaves. just be gglad you found out the issues attached with him before going farther.
its not as much amatter of confusion etc as it is of compatibility in the long run and compatibilty isnt just being able to have the same interestes and being able to adjust with each other etc. it includes the timing of making decisions in life. maybe this gguy just wasnt ready, or maybe he just doesnt have plans to get settled at all. maybe he just wants to play around, be free etc. thats where you know he isnt compatible since your priorities happen to be settling down and so on.
i guess, theres a lesson learnt with every thing, here one most imp lesson learnt is that next time you move close to someone, make sure first what his prioroties and timings are. i mean if he falls 100% perfect on all other requirements, whats the use if he’s not making himself available for a commitment?
hope it made sense.
best luck with the future :k:
and hope to see you around more often now that youve graduated.
Sweetpie,
yes, you have it all figured out and thats very good. im glad you seem very confident and sure; thats a very good thing cause relationships and the tensions that come along with them often keep ppl too stressed out for nothing. being over it and moving on with courage and energy is imp to get going in the right directions.
you’ll definitely have a lot better in store in the future. having graduated recently you should feel on top of the world!
what are your plans now? where do you plan to work? anymore study plans? or is MBA it?
