this is the very first time i have approached a public forum but somehow it felt right writing down my thoughts here…i have been receiving rishta’s (no too frequently) but things have not somehow materialized..something or the other doesn’t work out. I have always wanted to stay settled in pakistan where my parents and siblings are, but i know its Allah’s will where my destiny will lead me. All im confused about is, how will i know when its the right person? will the right person ever come my way? in today’s day & age, ppl are so self centered and have inner motives…in every namaaz i pray to Allah to bring my way, whats best for me & for my family…i know He’s listening to me but sometimes my negative thoughts get the better of me. I see ppl around me, who have done alot bad in their life but they are happy and are getting things? im not saying im perfect, i have my flaws but i dont know why sometimes i feel, happiness doesn’t come my way, the proper way…i recite Surah yasin daily & also offer my prayers regularly…sometimes i get strange dreams which leave me disturbed…i want to help ppl around me, but feel i dont have enough…i want to do so much in life, yet life leaves me stranded alone in the corner…i just wanted to write down these thoughts…
Welcome to Gupshup Religion forum. From your post it is difficult to determine whether you are a male or female and to some extent it does matter which one. I presume you are a young woman based on the style of writing.
The desire to stay with family is noble and good and if it gives you security and peace then this should be a criteria for your marriage. If however, your parents or family in general want you to get a rishta "bahr ka" then they will have reasons for it. Find out those reasons. Is it so they can become powerful or is it because they feel rishte from outside are more suitable to your personality?
Find out what it is they look for and make sure that they do not turn away noble and pious religious rishte, rather for a rich man/woman who is not so religious compared to a religious man/woman who is well off but not rich they should clearly put their focus on the religious person and so should you.
Taste has a great deal of importance and you need to be sure that you are attracted to the proposer of marriage, this way in time it should not matter whether you are close to family or not because it will be easier to create a new home for your heart in the person of your married partner.
If your parents do not want you to leave and you want to stay then the offer is simple. Explain this to all potential rishte at the beginning try not to hide anything that may cause problems later on. Sometimes people fear consequences too much and then cause blocks in their own progress. I hope this helps and praying for your success in a swift and good rishta comes to your soon and you and your family accept it. Ameen.