my female friend is in a happy relationship with her SO but her SO’s “friend” keeps tempting her away from him. She doesn’t see anything wrong with him doing that though. It honestly feels like the twilight zone…she seems to enjoy it…what the:mad:. He flirts with a lot of women like this and i’ve told her that so many times to be careful.
Her SO is a very good guy, I’ve talked to him several times. Who’s to blame here, the female friend for not having a problem with this guy luring her away from her SO, enjoying the overly seductive attention this “friend” is giving her or is the tempter the one who is the devil incarnate…or atleast that’s how i see it.
i feel like seriously confronting this other guy(her SO’s friend) but my female friend acts like she doesn’t even know this other guy when i ask her about the flirtation back and forth…when he’s giving her these seductive looks right in front of me. Why is she hiding all this? Seriously, you think you know someone and stuff from some c grade soap opera starts happening.
I just don’t know how far it’s gone, is it just playful seductive flirtation or has it gotten to be more and she’s just hiding it. I really should stay out of it but I just can’t sit and watch all this happening and not do anything about it. i need to build up enough strength to confront this other guy…It’s hard, he’s a big guy and i tend to not do well when it comes to confrontation especially when it’s a guy
What would you guys/gals do if you were in my place?
Seriously, the less you know of this the better off you are.
So just let her dig her own grave.
The "friend" is definitely a douche bag for back stabbing here but he is a guy who is just doing what he does best. That't no excuse but if you think about it...who is closer to the SO?
The friend or this girl? The girl since she's dating him. She owes him loyalty at the minimum.
Seriously, the less you know of this the better off you are.
So just let her dig her own grave.
The "friend" is definitely a douche bag for back stabbing here but he is a guy who is just doing what he does best. That't no excuse but if you think about it...who is closer to the SO?
The friend or this girl? The girl since she's dating him. She owes him loyalty at the minimum.
but she's the only female friend i've felt close to before i found out about this weird flirtation back and forth. I see this group every weekend so it's something that's hard to avoid. You're right though that's what i'm thinking, she's the one in a relationship this other guy is not, but this other guy is her SO's friend.
every single time i have a female friend something strange happens and i end up terminating the friendship. that's why i have mostly all guy friends. why why why is she doing this.......i think i'll just not see her for a couple weeks and just stay out of it, let them deal with this, I just hope the SO isn't clueless about all this though.
Sounds like the guy who's flirting is a scumbag. I would talk to your friend, voice your concern, and then forget about it. It's no longer your problem.
hey…blaming the guy only eh?? …
you said she enjoys it…and thats what makes the guy do it again…if she didn’t want it…he wouldn’t do it… stop portraying women like innocent 3 year olds who give in to the devil luring them into stuff…
Nisha, stay out of it. No good ever comes with interfering. The most you are responsible for is what you have already done : confronted your friend. Stay out of it otherwise.
I am not showing her as innocent :p, obviously i’m in a dilemma here and that’s b/c i’m seeing this different side of her that i don’t understand, alright i shouldn’t have said that he’s the devil incarnate but he seems to have a strange power over women, why flirt with a woman in a relationship and that too his friend’s woman. she’s my friend obviously i’ll be biased and care for her more
i am not judging him harshly, maybe he’s had bad experiences with women in the past and that’s why he sees nothing wrong with what he’s doing. i’m seeing his side too, maybe he’s testing her
i already said i’m staying out of it like everybody already said. no confrontation necessary, i am not getting myself all wound up in this but it is a messed up situation right??!!
Surely the husband must have noticed soemthing if she is so blatant/obvious in her flirting with her SO's friend?
I had a friend like this once and she just didnt see what she was doing wrong. Her BF would call me and ask whats going on with her and enter random guys name and I was like nothing, why? And he'd tell me how he'd seen her flirt on numerous occasions wth this guy and wanted me to find out what was going on. I asked her and all I got was "I'm not flirting, thats just me being friendly".. She was a pretty little thing and got loads of attention from guys so she just revelled in it and didn't see harm in it. Some people are just attention seekers/flirters... No amount of confrontation (to either person) is going to end this saga...
My advice would be to stay out of it and find yourself another close female friend!
(Like you, I seem to lose all my female friends in the same way, lol...)
The guy is obviously much better looking than her BF. He is giving her the thrills that her BF cant. she knows he would make a great sex partner. you should stop c*ck blocking cos you cant do much about this except hope that the BF figures out whats really going on.
Interestingly he is the only party that can actually do something about this scenario.
Barfi, they tend to do all of this flirting back and forth when he's not around. she's really well endowed and tends to show her assets. I guess even if she's Burmese muslim, she comes from a really liberal family or she sees it as being more western when she does these things. I don't know.
believe me, if i look back, she hasn't been an angel at all. She did certain things to draw his attention to her. So like nomica said they are both at fault for this and like uzair said the only person that can do anything about this is her SO. I know for a fact that he's not clueless but being in love with someone, you tend to overlook certain negatives of the other person and hope/pray they change, I think her SO's doing the same thing.
It's the weirdest situation i've seen in my life, nothing's ever so black and white.
i won't leave her as a friend b/c we're not perfect, we learn from our mistakes and i see her in that light too, she might have certain problems which i'm not aware of. Only God is the final judge, I am noone to judge her negatively
arrey yaar, mr. defender of all men, i already said that they are both at fault but the whole situation sucks.some people’s minds just work differently…i’m hoping he’ll change his ways too, permanently
she reminds me of how veena malik is or rakhi sawant.
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like everybody already said. no confrontation necessary, i am not getting myself all wound up in this but it is a messed up situation right??!!
the whole situation sucks.some people’s minds just work differently…i’m hoping he’ll change his ways too, permanently