When exactly is it ever the RIGHT time to confront someone…or not even confront but let your feelings out over something?
I can think of about several dozen examples in my life where I said something and I regretted it instantly, and then there are other times when I stayed quiet and I really wish i could have given that person a piece of my mind.
Its like, stay quiet, regret it, say something and still regret it.
has anyone else ever felt like this? how do you know when its the right time to say anything or not?
When exactly is it ever the RIGHT time to confront someone...or not even confront but let your feelings out over something?
I can think of about several dozen examples in my life where I said something and I regretted it instantly, and then there are other times when I stayed quiet and I really wish i could have given that person a piece of my mind.
Its like, stay quiet, regret it, say something and still regret it.
has anyone else ever felt like this? how do you know when its the right time to say anything or not?
When exactly is it ever the RIGHT time to confront someone...or not even confront but let your feelings out over something?
I can think of about several dozen examples in my life w*here I said something and I regretted it instantly*, and then there are other times when I stayed quiet and I really wish i could have given that person a piece of my mind.
Its like, stay quiet, regret it, say something and still regret it.
*Maybe it's the manner in which you're confronting the person that's not working. *
has anyone else ever felt like this? how do you know when its the right time to say anything or not?
1) Sometimes the other person is so hard-headed....that no matter how calmly you try to talk to them.....they will NEVER see their errors. They will NEVER apologize. You can't get "closure" from such people. And you can't wait eternity for them to wake up....when that may never happen. Allowing yourself to dwell on people who always think they're right.....and stressing yourself out is not healthy. With such people, YOU provide your own self with closure. You take whatever lesson you got from it and use it to make yourself better/stronger in some way.....and live your life.
2) If you think that this person CAN be reasoned with.......than you should approach them in a manner that won't make them defensive. When you start off something with accusations and ridicule....most people shut down. Start with the positive qualities.....start with the mistakes YOU have made and apologize......and then proceed to how you FELT about something they did or said. Sometimes when you admit your own mistakes first.....it calms the other person down and they are able to see that you're confident and humble enough to admit your errors......and this can even make them admit THEIR mistakes. You can even say, "Maybe I'm wrong in my assumption, but this is how your actions made me feel." Words can be powerful.
3) If the issue is robbing you of peace of mind and you think the person can be reasoned with....then talk to them.
4) If you see that the person is treating OTHERS in the same hurtful manner they treated you in......the idea of other victims could be serve as motivation to speak up.