Re: Conflicted: desire to please vs living your own life
why is there even a need to discuss with them what your social gathering is like?
at the end of the day it’s a personal decision for you…if you feel strongly enough that what you are doing is okay by your standards then you should have no difficulty in telling them (it helps that you are being truthful this way too) but if you are not able to handle the feeling of being “judged” then perhaps being a bit more discreet will work better.
I would try to avoid the subject but if they insist on pressing me then I would not lie.