Conflicted: desire to please vs living your own life

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Re: Conflicted: desire to please vs living your own life

@ruby17

So far we have done limited socialising as a couple so there has been nothing to hide. We do it occasionally with my cousin and her husband and enjoy it.

Fair enough some people like segregation but that’s not the point here. I have my own female friends and he has his own male friends and we hang out separately with them. What we want to have some friends in common so we can socialise together occasionally as well. We don’t see why this segregation rule should stop us from doing that, particularly as we interact with the opposite sex every day it just seems bizarre to us.

To be honest, we never actually plan a segregated get-together on purpose but whenever we are meeting some family friends (lets say 3-4 families) at home or restaurants, after slaam dua and haal-ehwal, groups segregates automatically (in different rooms at home or at different table corners at restaurant etc) as topics b/w women and guys and kids normally do not overlap greatly. Its just natural.