Conflicted: desire to please vs living your own life

[ruby17]

Re: Conflicted: desire to please vs living your own life

@redvelvet

But the hiding is working so far, right? If it’s not hindering your ability to meet up with other couples outside of the house then why worry about it. And segregated socializing in the home is not such a bad idea. In my home, when there’s a large scale dawat…the women are in one living room and the men are in another. If it’s just one couple that’s visiting, my mom and the aunti will be in a separate area of the home. Occasionally there is inter-mingling…but that is usually with family friends that we go way back with. My mom has no issues interacting with the opposite gender, but the separation gives the women more privacy and freedom with their own discussions. I personally feel more comfortable that way as it’s what I’m used to. It’s really not such a huge deal or even the end of the world.

So far we have done limited socialising as a couple so there has been nothing to hide. We do it occasionally with my cousin and her husband and enjoy it.

Fair enough some people like segregation but that’s not the point here. I have my own female friends and he has his own male friends and we hang out separately with them. What we want to have some friends in common so we can socialise together occasionally as well. We don’t see why this segregation rule should stop us from doing that, particularly as we interact with the opposite sex every day it just seems bizarre to us.