Re: Conflicted: desire to please vs living your own life
But the hiding is working so far, right? If it’s not hindering your ability to meet up with other couples outside of the house then why worry about it? And segregated socializing in the home is not the worst thing in the world. In my home, when there’s a large scale dawat…the women are in one living room and the men are in another. If it’s just one couple that’s visiting, my mom and the aunti will be in a separate area of the home. Occasionally there is inter-mingling…but that is usually with family friends that we go way back with. My mom has no issues interacting with the opposite gender, but the separation gives the women more privacy and freedom with their own discussions. I personally feel more comfortable that way as it’s what I’m used to. It’s really not such a huge deal or even the end of the world. In the professional sphere, the dynamics are much different as the intermingling is required. Outside it, I don’t think it’s all that necessary that it be treated as a “must have” thing.