Re: Conflicted: desire to please vs living your own life
you are grown adults, that’s why you are married, correct? if you are a child, scolding, teaching and rules are in place because you do not know any better and need that guidance. but if you are married, you are past all of that.
Respecting your in laws is one thing, having them run your life is completely different. for example, out of respect for them, you probably don’t yell at them, or have a makeout session with your husband because that is not our culture and something that is done in private, they do not need to know about it. if you go out with a friend (let’s say for argument’s sake it is a girl) and she shares some secrets with you, and maybe you do too, does that mean when you go home and tell your in laws your private discussions? I bet no, because that is something that need not be discussed unneccesarily.
there is no need for your in laws to know every single thing that is going on with your life. just because you do something they don’t approve of, does not mean you are being disrespectful