conflict with sibs over special things/people

Re: conflict with sibs over special things/people

should i value: kisi ke kahne se koi nahiiN aasaanii se yuN hii badal jaataa

or

dil se jo baat nikaltii hai asar rakhtii hai

KKF, you are saying too opposite things

ps. my father hates smoking, and paan, its a hypothetical situation.