its a hypothetical situation, let say your father smokes and you did everything but he is not quitting. you know that your father do give a bit of respect to your brother/sister. but your brother/sister is not willing to do anything about it. s/he thinks its his personal matter.
would you fight back and convince them in what way you could, or would you leave both your brother/sister and your father on their own? and remember, you always hold your brother/sister on high regards.
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I'd continue nagging my father (he is your dad after all) and let my brother/sister be.
Re: conflict with sibs over special things/people
I'd continue nagging my father (he is your dad after all) and let my brother/sister be.
life is not an indian soap opera where one is planning to sabotage and other dont even have a clue about it. parents know exactly who is doing what. they want you to ask your brother/sister to make them do things. they are not saying it you directly but you can feel it in their eyes. but on the other hand your sibs dont even give a damn about it.
there are several matter where no matter what i say my folks wont listen to me, but if my older brothers say something they blindly listen to them, even if it is the exact same thing.
Re: conflict with sibs over special things/people
its a hypothetical situation, let say your father smokes and you did everything but he is not quitting. you know that your father do give a bit of respect to your brother/sister. but your brother/sister is not willing to do anything about it. s/he thinks its his personal matter.
would you fight back and convince them in what way you could, or would you leave both your brother/sister and your father on their own? and remember, you always hold your brother/sister on high regards.
**kisi ke kahne se koi nahiiN aasaanii se yuN hii badal jaataa...jab tak baat unke dil meN nahiiN samaayegii k cigarette noshii unke Haq meN buraa hai tab tak vo nahiiN suneNge kisii kii...ba-qaul 'allaamah Iqbaal ke:
dil se jo baat nikaltii hai asar rakhtii hai :**D
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**kisi ke kahne se koi nahiiN aasaanii se yuN hii badal jaataa...jab tak baat unke dil meN nahiiN samaayegii k cigarette noshii unke Haq meN buraa hai tab tak vo nahiiN suneNge kisii kii...ba-qaul 'allaamah Iqbaal ke:
dil se jo baat nikaltii hai asar rakhtii hai :**D
should i value: kisi ke kahne se koi nahiiN aasaanii se yuN hii badal jaataa
or
dil se jo baat nikaltii hai asar rakhtii hai
KKF, you are saying too opposite things
ps. my father hates smoking, and paan, its a hypothetical situation.
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should i value: kisi ke kahne se koi nahiiN aasaanii se yuN hii badal jaataa
or
dil se jo baat nikaltii hai asar rakhtii hai
KKF, you are saying too opposite things
ps. my father hates smoking, and paan, its a hypothetical situation.
**i think u didn't get my response. i said if someone nags me about giving up something [hypothetically or otherwise], i'll NOT do that...i'll ONLY do it when i come to realization that it's in my best interest...ya'nii mere dil meN jab yeh baat baiTh jaayegii tabhii maiN rukuuNgaa varna kisii ke kahne se hargiz nahiiN...aur yaqeenan mere dil se jo faisla kiyaa jaayegaa vohii paayedaar hogaa aur usii meN asar hogaa...kisii aur kii baat meN koi dam nahiiN hogaa...
...btw, i hate smoking too!**
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Huh? Your siblings are entitled to their own opinion, and it may not be the same as yours. Also, just because you hold them in high regard doesn't necessarily mean that they will the think the same as you....nor does it mean that they're views will always be healthy/correct/reasonable, etc.
You've fulfilled the responsibility of trying to reason with your father about his smoking. And I believe that there's only so much you can do. A person can even seek professional help to quit smoking...but it won't be effective....if he/she does not have the willingness or the desire to quit smoking. You've done your part. And I think that ....whether only ONE of the children makes the effort...or more than one tries to reason with the parent........chances are that the parent already knows about the ill-effects of smoking...but continues to do it anyway. Again, you can only try up to a point...and then you leave it to the individual. Some people learn their lesson the hard way when they're facing dire consequences for their deliberate actions......and sadly some don't even learn at that point.
Re: conflict with sibs over special things/people
life is not an indian soap opera where one is planning to sabotage and other dont even have a clue about it. parents know exactly who is doing what. they want you to ask your brother/sister to make them do things. they are not saying it you directly but you can feel it in their eyes. but on the other hand your sibs dont even give a damn about it.
Lol. First you say life isn't a soap opera and then you come up with this cock and bull story that your parents are indirectly telling you to make your brother/sister ask your dad to quit smoking.
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I'd continue nagging my father (he is your dad after all) and let my brother/sister be.
This.