I am confused whether the difference with which we treat men and women on so many levels, are result of the way we have been conditioned since our birth OR we truly feel they can’t be compared on those levels?.
I am of the opinion that men and women are not equal for the very basic reason that they are two different entities n different on so many levels i.e emotional, physical, intellectual, etc. So there is no question of them being treated the same way or on the same level because with all the above difference in place, the difference in our appraoch for them comes into place. Having said that, doesnt mean we can’t treat both with respect and give them their rights.
I believe I am an educated and aware person; intellectually, mentally and emotionaly. I understand there are things men can do, women can’t and vice versa. But neither has more importance over the other.
Coming back to what i had originally in mind :D. What striked me today was that even after being intellectually and mentally aware even then at times I am inclined to treat both male and female differently EVEN when there is no reason for it.
For example: A guy (Prospect) is at a restaurant/club and a belly dancer comes upto him and he gets dancing with her, though not clinging to her or anything like that. My Reaction: 1) Hmm LOLZ. 2) Opsie! so he is not as straight as i may have thought. 3) All guys are the same. 4) He looks cute, he sure is a confident guy and seems like fun.
Now If it was a male looking at prospect’s video and she was going along doing the same, i am sure his reaction would be whole lot different. And not even his but if i were to judge a girl doing the same i would be alot harsher towards her then i was towards this guy.
Why is it like that? I am the only one who feels this and that you guys would feel the same no matter what gender the person is from?.
We can all act holy and say that no we don’t discriminate based on gender , but we do sometime . Like you said in your opening paragraph that we are different , so yea in fact we ARE different . We think different , we act different , we judge different . I am not really sure if even we can help it .
It’s not just about two genders, you’d react differently each time to each situation depending on the factors, motives and your relation to the stimuli.
You are right, it’s because of our conditioning. We are brought up to believe that women are inferior. And what really amazes me is that our mothers never attempt to change our mindsets, seeing as children are most influenced by their mothers and all mothers are female lol
So if i may ask you, what would be your reaction if you saw your potential prospect in such a video behaving the way i described in my post? Please be honest if you plan to answer this.
I agree. But what if the situation, factors, motives and even relation are same :). You are a girl so if i may ask you the same question that i asked a male above. What would be your reaction?.
I know eh. I wonder about it all the time :p. Its being going on from generation to generation and i suppose we are yet to be gifted by a generation which will take a step and put an end to this mindset.
No. Atleast i understand the difference between being different but not necessairly being not equal. I still say that both are not equal but NOT saying males score higher or that females do. Just like you can’t say apples and mangoes are equal same goes for them. Depending on their different roles in life they may score higher than the other on different levels.
It was a general comment on those who think men and women should not only be considered equal but in order to show the equality they should be able to do similar acts.
They may have different roles and they may not be ‘equal’.
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For ME, there is absolutely no discrimination between the expectation of morality from either gender.
I would discourage my brother from marrying a girl who dances with a male belly dancer (if they exist) as much as I would discourage my sister from marrying a guy who dances with a female belly dancer. And yes, I’m considered a radical (in a negative way) by desis who get familiar with my thought process. My mom is afraid of putting me through an arranged marriage. lol.
I can never condone a guys flirtatious ways just because ‘it’s a man’s nature’ more than I will condone a female’s. But that’s just me and the majority is different.
