Addressing the lament that most wives have that their husband pays attention and listens to his mother much more than he listens to her.
A mother’s love is unconditional. Most if not all children know that. The love of a wife is conditional and may become unconditional at a later stage in life. So this begs the question isn’t it just logical to support those who love you unconditionally?
-Momma’s boy
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lol cheers, they say that guys who make excellent moma's boy make excellent husband!
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Addressing the lament that most wives have that their husband pays attention and listens to his mother much more than he listens to her.
A mother's love is unconditional. Most if not all children know that. The love of a wife is conditional and may become unconditional at a later stage in life. So this begs the question isn't it just logical to support those who love you unconditionally?
-Momma's boy
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^Yeah i agree with ya, but the wife has an unconditional love for your children, so just figure out.
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is this thread supposed to be guys one cause i might take my leave and you can co miserat bout wifey being demanding and stuff.
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I would disagree. a wife's love in not conditional as when she leaves her parents house, and joins you, she does that with an intention to spend the rest of her life, in health/illness, poverty/richness with you. So, i don't think anyone has an upper hand, either your mother or wife, both have their own places and if you're comparing them, the prob is not with them, the problem lies somewhere you're doing wrong.
Some people like to generalize everything in favor of wives as if they are angels, while others do it in favor of husbands. If a woman marries a man, it does not automatically means that her/ his love is unconditional, because the situation varies from case to case depending upon their intentions.
My humble opinion is that the best way is to respect both mother and wife and give importance to the opinions of both of them. One should support the one whose reasoning is logical, BUT not in front of the other person, as in most clashes no one wants to be told that she is wrong.
The matter should be discussed while being "ALONE" in respective rooms of each of them. BUT it should be done with wisdom and sincerity so that non of them thinks that the man gives more importance to one over the other. He should humbly request his mother to treat his wife the way she would treat her own daughter, and he should request his wife to treat his mother the way she would treat her own mother.
In my case, the situation is totally different. Because my mother always give priority to my wife over me in every matter, while my wife gives priority to my mom over me in every matter. In fact, Alhamdulillah in one year they never argued or disagreed with each other in any matter but had a lot of combine disagreements with me. :( But that is a better situation for me then if it were the other way round. (Alhamdulillah)
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the best way to solve ths is to stay neutral jus say to the both of em 'ma name is paul n this is between y'all' :p
coz the poor guy gets blamed no matter wat lol 'u mommaz boy' or 'joru ka ghulaam' so he shud jus NOT get involved hehe
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I think that a wife is conditional. You just need to look at the divorce rates and compare them with the times mothers disown their children.
Besides mothers very literally bring you in the world, without them you would not be here. I am don't intend to bash wives here, but mothers are usually more likely to be in your corner. Similarly i get it when children support their mothers.
hmm Y u ppl are comparing Mother’s love with Wife’s Love. Both relations are different, v dont need to put any efforts in relation with mother but with wife its a new relation so one need to make things work out together!. Love isnt a quantity which can be measured!..so stop measuring it!..love is love in watever shape it is. Instead of calculating it…Cherish it!
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Unconditional love means that NO MATTER WHAT, you have profound love for and acceptance of another. This happens usually in a parent-child relationship although you DO hear sad stories of parents "disowning" their children for offenses that they cant handle. Most husband/wife relationships are conditional - even in a great marriage. I mean heck MY hubby who I love with heart and soul and would give my life for - if for some reason he started beating me or the boyz, I'd still love him i guess but I'd also be out the door with the boyz. At the moment thats the only thing that comes to mind but even ONE thing that could cause such a break means that its conditional love - or love that comes with RESPONSIBILITY yeah? My boyz on the other hand....I would never "disown" them no matter WHAT. This is unconditional love.
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My husband is very balanced in the presentation of his love for his mom and wife. The love for a mother is very different than love for a wife. These are two distinctly separate relationships. Mom can never be the wife and vice versa. So why the issue? Let him love both, and in the unique way that they deserve.
My husband is very balanced in the presentation of his love for his mom and wife. The love for a mother is very different than love for a wife. These are two distinctly separate relationships. Mom can never be the wife and vice versa. So why the issue? Let him love both, and in the unique way that they deserve.
You can get another wife but cant get another mom ... beat that :)
Yes you cannot beat that, but if you get into a marriage with that attitude, I can tell you your marriage will fail miserably . Also, I guess if we have daughters, we would never think that way.
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interesting concept - parent's boy, a young man who is ready to have his own family.
sad it is that the indpendent growth and development of this individual then gets discontinued in many ways.
he likes to make alibis on the pretext that his mom or dad did not want this or that for him.
but, things are only always getting rougher for any adult who does not take charge of his / her life & takes responsibility of the actions.
lol cheers, they say that guys who make excellent moma's boy make excellent husband!
So we never get out of that unconditionally imposed slavery :@:
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being a mom ,being a wife, i love better as a mom as of yet. i give my hubby loads of grief. so yea mom wins
So we never get out of that unconditionally imposed slavery :@:
what can i say why are you guys so needy :P
I was just stating a fact. I am married alhamdullah and have daughter too mashallah 
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Well that's great to know D6Chora!
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i think its the same mentality where guys say, oh maa tho ek hai, aur maa nahi milega. biwi tho aur bhi miljeyngi… 
cant see how u can compare the 2 ..