Re: Concubines
I am apalled at this. Really. Very very apalled. What keeps you, pray tell, from marrying a girl in a simple setting in a masjid (avoid paying grounds expenses), in a simple wedding dress (girlfriend, you need to come shopping with me, I can get you a wedding gharaara for 5000 rupees), and serving a simple home-cooked food and invite close family friends? In many places, you’ll find women who cater and who make their primary living this way because they’ve lost family members, and so there are many ways to get cheaper catering, AND you’ll have given a poor widow some business so she can pay her bills.
I digress. If you find that you need to look for a concubine, because keeping a Pakistani believing woman is too much for you, then I’m sorry to say I’ve really really really lost a great deal of respect for you. And even if this thread is some joke, I would have to say that you need to find something else to joke about.
Also, keep in mind that you cannot under any circumstance make a believing woman your “concubine”. That you cannot take someone against her will and make her your “concubine”. And that the only woman you’ll find who will be willing to serve as a “concubine” is a sex-trafficked woman victimized by a sex-trafficking maafia who will sell her flesh to you for nearly nothing so they can fill their pockets. The other option would be to find a non-believing woman to just sleep with you and you not marry her, but then that’s not the same thing as having a “right hand”, as you are forbidden to sleep with anyone who is a na-mehram to you.
Of course, you can always go join some war and take female boot-ay, and again, you fall into the issue of “Are you taking a concubine, or are you a rapist?”. And its a dark and dreary road you must be on if you’re thinking about this last option, my friend.
Quite honestly, there are many wonderful Pakistani muslim women on this forum who are single and not high maintenance. Maybe you need to look around and be a bit more open-minded about marrying a believing woman and working towards having a special relationship with her through a legal marriage. It can be very fulfilling.
Many a GS member has started a singles’ support group. Please refer to the following link and feel free to have a pow-wow with other men encountering similar problems such as yours.
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/showthread.php?t=280648&page=3
Know this: You are not alone. We’re all hear to support you. As they still say on the rusty streets of New Yo’k : “I got yo back”.