According to islam and the teachings in Quran and Sunnah, how would an ideal wedding be.
what should be the functions? what should NOT be done? what are the rulings on Jahez and Mehndi ceremony? what is haq mehr, how much should it be decided.
Please do quote some references from the Holy Quran and Sunnah too if possible.
thankyou 
Re: Concept of a true Islamic Wedding
it is sad.. ! so many topics in Religion & scripture with lots of views but no replies.
am hoping someone would reply to what I have been asking or at least provide me good links to authentic Islamic websites :)
:salam:
Let me try to help u in this. About Haq mehr (dowry) u can visit earlier post on gs by clicking the link below
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/wedding/396438-haq-meher.html
or visit the following website 4 detailed answer 'bout dowry marriage according to the Islam
Allah ta ‘ala teaches us in the Holy Quran that the marriage relationship is one of His Signs
Islam Question and Answer - The mahr (dowry) is the right of the wife
The order to Marry
Hadith - Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, No. 1, Narrated Anas bin Malik
A group of three men came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet asking how the Prophet worshipped (Allah), and when they were informed about that, they considered their worship insufficient and said, “Where are we from the Prophet as his past and future sins have been forgiven.” Then one of them said, “I will offer the prayer throughout the night forever.” The other said, “I will fast throughout the year and will not break my fast.” The third said, “I will keep away from the women and will not marry forever.” Allah’s Apostle came to them and said, “Are you the same people who said so-and-so? By Allah, I am more submissive to Allah and more afraid of Him than you; yet I fast and break my fast, I do sleep and I also marry women. So he who does not follow my tradition in religion, is not from me (not one of my followers).”
Al-Mahr (The Dowry)
The Noble Qur’an 4:4
And give to the women (whom you marry) their Mahr (obligatory bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heart, but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it, and enjoy it without fear of any harm (as Allâh has made it lawful).
For details please visit Muttaqun OnLine - Marriage: According to Quran and Sunnah
Re: Concept of a true Islamic Wedding
I was working on what u asked. Hope u’ll get answer from the above :k:
Re: Concept of a true Islamic Wedding
@lethal kamikaze .. thanks alot ! 
one more question .. as I have mentioned in this thread, my fiance wants a total Islamic wedding
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/wedding/396631-what-should-i-do.html
what should I do to ensure this would happen? please this is very important as i do not want to do anything that could in anyway displease Allah.
what about jahez/dowry given by the bride’s parents?
And as suggested by different Guppans in this thread that I could go for an all girls function and can have music and dances, is that permissible?
really appreciate your help !
Re: Concept of a true Islamic Wedding
I need sometime to answer. Will be back in half an hour with answers
Read carefully or visit the website for detailed answer. The concept of marriage in islam is very simple but today v all made it most difficult becoze of some foolish rasm-o-riwaj i.e tail mehndi, mayo, dholki, baraat, doodh pilai ram etc etc. The concept in Islam is that after doing the Nikah, u can invites relatives/friends for Walima (but in separete male/female should not seen each other) Dance each is not permissible in Islam for if some1 wanna share the joy of his/her marriage should go for 2 rakat namaz or the money he/she will spend on music etc (arrangement of Prgramme) may donate to some needy family. Its worth then using on some kinda music etc. (My view of thinking)
MARRIAGE IN ISLAM.
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Islam, unlike other religions is a strong advocate of marriage. There is no place for celibacy like, for example the Roman Catholic priests and nuns. The prophet (pbuh) has said "there is no celibacy in Islam.
Marriage is a religious duty and is consequently a moral safeguard as well as a social necessity. Islam does not equal celibacy with high “taqwa” / “Iman”. The prophet has also said, “Marriage is my tradition who so ever keeps away there from is not from amongst me”.
Marriage acts as an outlet for sexual needs and regulate it so one does not become a slave to his/ her desires.
It is a social necessity because through marriage, families are established and the family is the fundamental unit of our society. Furthermore, marriage is the only legitimate or halal way to indulge in intimacy between a man and a woman.
Islam takes a middle of the road position to sexual relations , it neither condemns it like certain religions, nor does it allow it freely. Islam urges us to control and regulate our desires, whatever they may be so that we remain dignified and not become like animals.
The purpose of Marriage.
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The word “zawj” is used in the Qur’an to mean a pair or a mate
Marriage in Islam
05. THE MARRIAGE CEREMONY:
1. Engagement or Mangni: Does not qualify the future spouses to go out together, even if the parents consent. Man and woman become permissible for each other only after the performance of Nikah.
2. Dowry: The unislamic system of demanding and accepting dowry must be avoided at all costs. Shariah does not make any expense incumbent on the bride/bride’s parents. Even the marriage expenses, it is recommended to be borne by the bridegroom. However, the bride can bring whatever she wants of her free will, and it will always belong to her.
3. Other Unislamic Customs: Many other unislamic customs have crept into the marriage ceremony of some Muslims. These customs are either borrowed from non-Muslim cultures or continue because they are established in past generations. One must avoid them if they are against the Shariah, even if some people are displeased. Other customs like the breaking of coconut etc. also do not feature among the Islamic rituals. All actions, customs etc., which show disrespect to Islam or weaken the importance of Islam, have to be avoided.
4. Haraam Acts: Some of the rituals in marriage ceremonies are absolutely Haraam like the playing of music. It is also Haraam for ladies to go for mixed gatherings without proper Hijab. Such things invite divine wrath and take away the blessings of this auspicious occasion. In the Islamic Law, marriage is an Aqd, a contract. The components of this contract are as follows:
A. Proposal: In Islam the process of proposal by a man to a woman for her hand in marriage, or for that matter, to her family, is encouraged. Islam considers this natural, and recommends it as an act of respectability and dignity for women.
B. Mahr: And the intending husband is asked to offer a Mahr to the bride. Holy Quran says, And give women their Mahr as a free gift, but if they of themselves be pleased to give up to you a portion of it, then eat it with enjoyment and with wholesome result. (Surah Nisa 4:4)
The following points are worthy of consideration:
a) Mahr must be agreed upon by the marrying partners themselves, not by parents.
b) Mahr is her right, to which her husband remains indebted.
c) It is a free gift and not her price.
The Mahr may be cash, kind or non-material (like training or teaching something). It can be paid up front or can be in form of promise to pay upon demands decided prior to the solemnization of marriage. Moajjal (immediate), Muwajjal and Indat-talab (on demand). However, it is much recommended to pay it before or at the time of Nikah itself.
C. The Nikah Ceremony: According to Shariah, the wife-to-be says, ‘An Kah’tu nafsaka a’lal mah’ril ma’loom’. (“I have given away myself in Nikah to you, on the agreed Mahr.”)
Immediately, the man (bridegroom) says, ‘Qabiltun Nikaha’. (“I have accepted the Nikah.”)
watch Dr. Zakir Naik video regarding marriage