asking anything personal is normally something that people gauge and then ask. but when asked, why do people act so conceited?
is it a cultural thing or a family brought up thing?
even as an adult a person lies and does not want to confront who that person is (which may just be fine), why do people lie?
share your thoughts if you like and share what you feel can be a non harsh way but a definitive way to indicate to such people that lying is wrong.
best,
Dushwari
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Good question. I think a lot of attitude we have is a learned behavior...from our upbringing, from our environment, and some of it is just our nature. I think the intentions of people who are conceited shows through when they are asking personal questions. Best is to stay away as much as possible.
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i think u 2 are saying 2 diff things'
dushi is concerned about ppl who lie when asked personal questions
niksik is focusing on ppl who ask personal questions.
did i get that right? :)
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jee, pir baba ji. you got it right. :)
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well in that case my view is ppl are free to ask questions, and ppl who are answering have a right to not answer.
if I start asking you perosnal questiosn dushi, are you obligated to answer them?
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Fraudia bhai, if i trust you and i am honest and so are you, and then if you ask me personal something, then i must be able to trust you good enough, and also be able to answer those questions. no?
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Oops sorry, I goofed up.
If you ask me a personal question, I will not lie, but if let's say xyz_abc asks me a personal question, I may just change the topic or convert their question into a question if I don't feel easy saying "I prefer not to answer..."
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depends, there may be questions that I dont want to answer. There are levels of trust and even there..sometimes ppl dont want to disclose certain things, whether it is someting form their past, or something as simple as how much they make.
I dont think someone being asked a personal question and not answering is concieted, I think they are private.
and we should respect the privacy of the ppl, if someone asks me a question and I dont answer it, should they keep pressing until i make up ans answer where I get them off my back yet am able to maintan my privacy?
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Oops sorry, I goofed up. If you ask me a personal question, I will not lie, but if let's say xyz_abc asks me a personal question, I may just change the topic or convert their question into a question if I don't feel easy saying "I prefer not to answer..."
really? I have no problems tellign ppl that i dont want to answer, earlier i used to play thepolite polite game
its like a friends mum who was after my salary info when i got a job after MBA, i think she wanted to compare with her nephew who she thought was not making as much as he said he was since hima dn I were in teh same company..
kitna bana laitay ho
i was like, alhumdilllah allah ka shukr hai , humaray liye kaafi hai
she goes, phir bhi kitna
and just kept at it, starts throwing numbers at me
it was awkward as hell
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^akh i hate those…aunties and uncles do that all the time with others things too such as grades, classes, majors, careers…its like shish give me a break and let me figure myself out and NO i dont wanna tell you!!! grrrr 
its true half the time they wanna compare you to their kids or something and its really annoying and i bet its annoying for their kids as well to end up listening to the comparison keh “woh to aisi/aisa hai”
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really? I have no problems tellign ppl that i dont want to answer, earlier i used to play thepolite polite game
its like a friends mum who was after my salary info when i got a job after MBA, i think she wanted to compare with her nephew who she thought was not making as much as he said he was since hima dn I were in teh same company..
kitna bana laitay ho i was like, alhumdilllah allah ka shukr hai , humaray liye kaafi hai she goes, phir bhi kitna and just kept at it, starts throwing numbers at me
it was awkward as hell
Yea, it's like when you go back to India, family members (the khaalas and phuppos) want to compare with thei kids so they ask "aur tum logon kay paas konsi konsi gaRiyan hai...cash pay leeN thi, ki installments deh rahey ho" and the salary stuff...
Sick!
Yes in cases like this, best to figure out a good way...:(
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ever tried giving those ppl really lame answers just to screw with their heads.
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^ for example ? :aq:
(keeping in mind that you cant offend them or be rude to them )
and then hear comments like
4 paisay kia agaye, dimagh hi kharab hogaya hai 