Are you chintzy with your compliments or are you generous?
If someone doesn’t remember to compliment you (and you totally think you deserve it), do you coax/hint/hit them over the head until they compliment you? Is such a compliment even worth anything if you had to force it out of someone?
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I used to compliment people on what I thought they wanted to hear, but now I compliment people on what they need to hear...if I remember to compliment people at all.
Sometimes when I can't think of anything nice to say I smile, like this :)
Works a treat!
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Only at work if someone complimnts me I tell them to drop a note to my boss instead. That goes a long way at the time of the annual review.
Other than that I belive in "naikee kar darya main daal " Do good and move on.
But if someone does a good job and deserve a compliment I make it a point to compliment them or praise them whole heartedly.
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Sometimes when I can't think of anything nice to say I smile, like this :)
Works a treat!
I always to take the stiff, almost forced :) to mean:
" I-would-rather-be-anywhere-but-here-and-I-have-nothing-nice-to-say-about-you. Out-of-a-fear-that-God-will-smite-me-if-I-tell-you-what-I-really-think-of-you-I'll-stay-quiet-and-let-you-fill-in-the-blanks-yourself" smile.
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Nope...ain't worth it if you had to force it. One should have enough respect for themselves not to "force" it out of someone. But there's some gray area with this issue.....I'm not saying that compliment should be forced out......but it can be hurtful if one only focuses on the negative and when you make the effort to do something positive/nice....they don't appreciate it or see it. And in a relationship...people will sometimes bring this point up with the other person.
I think I'm generous with compliments....and I praise when I mean it....and I've done so several times even with people I don't like that much.
I also think that the best/most fun compliments are the random ones you receive from strangers/people you don't know well (because there's no obligation with a stranger...no sense of pity...they don't feel the need/pressure to compliment).
Backhanded compliments.......SO ANNOYING!!!! I think that they make the person giving them not only appear jealous and condescending ...but also stupid (as in being clueless about tact/sort of unrefined)...it makes the giver look worse.
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I dont like complimenting people unless they really deserve it. But then again I'm the kinda person who says 'yes I'm fine, anyways...' when people say 'how are you? oh i'm fine too!'
don't like ze fakeness.
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LOL! Okay, I'll give an example of a "forced compliment." My nephew is a love (he's m'A 5 years old). When my sister gets all dressed up, he will go up to his mom, give her a HUGE hug and tell her that she looks beautiful. My sister makes a point of mentioning to her husband how her son complimented her and my BIL upon hearing that he's being outdone by his son, has to play catch-up to his son and then sharm-o-huzoori mein, he also compliments his wife. Does the husband's compliment count or was it forced or guilted out of him.
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LOL! Okay, I'll give an example of a "forced compliment." My nephew is a love (he's m'A 5 years old). When my sister gets all dressed up, he will go up to his mom, give her a HUGE hug and tell her that she looks beautiful. My sister makes a point of mentioning to her husband how her son complimented her and my BIL upon hearing that he's being outdone by his son, has to play catch-up to his son and then sharm-o-huzoori mein, he also compliments his wife. Does the husband's compliment count or was it forced or guilted out of him.
Hmmm. It could be one of those situations where the person was preoccupied or overlooked...but when they focused upon the matter and when it was brough to their attention......their compliment truly is sincere. But how does one determine that for sure? Wouldn't it depend upon the nature of the relationship and the level of trust?
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I don't fish for compliments.
But men, remember, when you are going out with your S/O, always tell them they look really nice.
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I have a strong habit of complimenting people, I just can't stop myself from complimenting them....sometimes I regret it.
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I always to take the stiff, almost forced :) to mean:
" I-would-rather-be-anywhere-but-here-and-I-have-nothing-nice-to-say-about-you. Out-of-a-fear-that-God-will-smite-me-if-I-tell-you-what-I-really-think-of-you-I'll-stay-quiet-and-let-you-fill-in-the-blanks-yourself" smile.
No pet, it means 'I think you look worse than my next door neighbours dog wearing what my sister in law cooked last Eid but I CBA saying all of that cos I am too busy admiring my own shoes' smile.
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No pet, it means 'I think you look worse than my next door neighbours dog wearing what my sister in law cooked last Eid but I CBA saying all of that cos I am too busy admiring my own shoes' smile.
LOL! I like your non-PC definition of the smile :)
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i don't know how to take compliments. sometimes its a nervous lol and a thanks. other times its like no.
i don't compliment anyone unless i really do think its worth complimenting. usually i just make a comment about anything else.
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I don't fish for compliments.
But men, remember, when you are going out with your S/O, always tell them they look really nice.
Damn right they gotta compliment!
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I only compliment when I really mean it. And I smile when everyone else is complimenting, except for me. 
As for coaxing a compliment out of someone - I don’t do that. 
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I hate to admit it, but I discriminate with my compliments. Most of the time I give out compliments generously but if I feel like someone has gotten one too many compliments and is getting a big head I won't give them a compliment (even if they probably deserve it)
On the other hand, I never fish for compliments. I'm actually quite awkward when I do receive one
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Very generous. I somehow always find smtng i really like in everyone
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Whoooz your daddy . . .
thats how I go :p
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People who compliment others have empathy. They realize the world does not revolve around them - and that sometimes the stage belongs to someone else.
People who are on the lookout for compliments but are stingy wrt giving compliments - they always want the stage, and do not want to share it.