What are your thoughts on double/triple rishtas in the same family. Say 2 sisters from the same family marrying 2 brothers? Or even 2 brothers marrying 2 sisters and then the sister of the brothers marrying the brother of the sisters?
I just confused myself so I’m not sure if you understand my point.
So say there are 2 brothers and a sister…and the oldest brother gets married. And then his brother gets married to his wifes sister. And then his sister gets married to his wifes brother.
It sounds so…incesty (even though its not). Do you think it can give rise to complictions in the future? It’s like, too much drama in one place right? I don’t understand the logic behind it, or how it could work.
I've seen this happen in one family. The oldest girl went to pk...married a guy...the sister visited..started liking the brother...they married...and the brother of the two girls decided to marry the sister of the brothers.
Those relationships appear to be working out...good luck to them!
1 . I think the most important one is that they attribute the strength of the family to stay united . Their concept of staying united is to keep on marrying inside the family and all the family will stay together .
2 . Marrying inside the family also help in preventing further division of wealth . Like traditionally people had land that gets smaller and smaller if they marry outside the family .
3 . It is hard to trust people outside the family . Parents feel more secure in marrying their daughters to someone from inside the family , as they think that they will treat her better . Another think related to it is the family influence on the relationship between husband and wife .
I think these are few reason why people marry in their family . But as time is changing so is this tradition .
1 . I think the most important one is that they attribute the strength of the family to stay united . Their concept of staying united is to keep on marrying inside the family and all the family will stay together .
2 . Marrying inside the family also help in preventing further division of wealth . Like traditionally people had land that gets smaller and smaller if they marry outside the family .
3 . It is hard to trust people outside the family . Parents feel more secure in marrying their daughters to someone from inside the family , as they think that they will treat her better . Another think related to it is the family influence on the relationship between husband and wife .
I think these are few reason why people marry in their family . But as time is changing so is this tradition .
There is nothing wrong in of two sisters marrying in the same household, but there is big danger in cross marrying (Both family take a girl of each family).
In case relationship does not work for any couple, the relationship of other couple used by family as blackmailing point.
So if you are marrying in a traditional family with strong inter family bond please be careful.
Namaan brought up some good points in favor of these "complicated Rishtas"...but just keep in mind that if God forbid anything was to go wrong...then basically its like an all out war...with side taking and undermining and just plain old rude behaviour...(from what i've heard...) but yea that's just my opinion!
two sisters w/ 2 brothers i think works well. the sisters dont have to worry about bhabi/jethani problems and the brothers dont have to worry about the drama :)! unless the sisters hate each other.
two sisters w/ 2 brothers i think works well. the sisters dont have to worry about bhabi/jethani problems and the brothers dont have to worry about the drama :)! unless the sisters hate each other.
There is nothing wrong in 2 sisters w 2 brothers, but if they also marry their sis to in law house then there could be potential of serious problem.
It's not necessarily gonna end up badly, but it means that you rarely get to mind your own business, any time something happens the whole family get involved and turn it into an emotional blackmail drama
My mum and her sister are married to my dad and my uncle. In short 2 brothers and 2 sisters.
And they are there for each other in highs and lows. My mum supports her sister and my dad supports his brother. Its great coz for my mum and her sister its a sahara whereas the other sisters are married outside and they have no one (troubled marriages, kuttay husbands :()
Its not always a doom and gloom story, If the family your marrying into is decent then it just gives opportunity for more strength in the relationships you already have. Plus its easier to be there for each other in times of need.
The problem lies in whether you breed your kids... I think that's kind of incesty and a footstep towards complications coz the relationship gets too close then.. IMO
although there is nothing wrong with such marriages .. Infact in older times this is exactly how families were kept united as Namaan said , and I have seen alot of very successful marriages ..
However the risk is quite huge ..because if one marriage goes bad , the other ones are bound to suffer , no matter what ...
In my family though, we try not to do rishta's in the same families unless its an exceptional case .... specially if its the imediate family like sisters and brothers ... cousins are ok ... just to avoid any bit of complications ...
Watta satta in Punjabi we call it. Have seen lots of cases like these. If it works out all right then it is all good but if not then problems can arise. Elaborate on this later.
What are your thoughts on double/triple rishtas in the same family. Say 2 sisters from the same family marrying 2 brothers? Or even 2 brothers marrying 2 sisters and then the sister of the brothers marrying the brother of the sisters?
I just confused myself so I'm not sure if you understand my point.
So say there are 2 brothers and a sister...and the oldest brother gets married. And then his brother gets married to his wifes sister. And then his sister gets married to his wifes brother.
It sounds so...incesty (even though its not). Do you think it can give rise to complictions in the future? It's like, too much drama in one place right? I don't understand the logic behind it, or how it could work.
I know some families who have these types of marriages. It's working out for them. There are some complications that can arise in certain situations but I haven't seen it happen much. Although if all those couples are not living together, then it does reduce the likelihood greatly.
mostly these types of rishtas are HIGHLY interdependent. Something going wrong in ONE, mostly effects other relationships too .... I think people should avoid it unless there is some solid reason to do so.
yeah as everyone else has said the same thing too much interdependance, in our networking terms it is like a BUS TOPOLOGY network, one thing goes wrong everything goes down :D