If you are always complaining about yourself but you never do anything to change it, does that mean you are really content with yourself and you just make a big fuss?
Like if you’re always complaining to yourself and others that you are fat for example, and its something you can change, but you dont do anything to change it and thus you remain fat. Does this mean you really dont care to be skinny in the first place and think that youre fine just being fat but perhaps you dont want to admit it to yourself?
Could it be you are too content and just like to make noise?
munni, you should be grateful to be who you are.. whether one has an athletic body, is slim or is the complete opposite shouldn't matter. Only when it is for health reasons i.e you have been advised that you are overweight than yes that can be an issue. But even than science has advanced so much that there are umteen ways of losing weight (without starving yourself) hehe. :-)
People who complain about themselves often indulge in self-pity and are seeking sympathy from others. In my humble opinion, if such individuals truly were unsatisfied with themselves, they would do something to rectify the problem. If not, then it is sheer self-pity and possibly attention-seeking.
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*Originally posted by Dil he Pakistani: *
munni, you should be grateful to be who you are.. whether one has an athletic body, is slim or is the complete opposite shouldn't matter. Only when it is for health reasons i.e you have been advised that you are overweight than yes that can be an issue. But even than science has advanced so much that there are umteen ways of losing weight (without starving yourself) hehe. :-)
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I agree about the overweight thing, but this thread isnt about weight. It could have been any issue in there. Being a better person religiously, etc.
What im trying to say is, if u keep complaining about something and never do anything about it, does it mean ur really just content with urself and really dont want to change?
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*Originally posted by MehnazQ: *
People who complain about themselves often indulge in self-pity and are seeking sympathy from others. In my humble opinion, if such individuals truly were unsatisfied with themselves, they would do something to rectify the problem. If not, then it is sheer self-pity and possibly attention-seeking.
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This is the type of answer I was looking for. Anyone else agree/disagree with this?
Now the thing is, you say that if ppl dont do something about their problem, then its possibly self-pity and attention seeking. Now what about the situations where girls get together and as I have often experienced from listening to them, they will start complaining about this that and the other thing. I dont think I have ever been in a circle of girls where there are no complaints about themselves. Maybe I have but its been rare. So are many girls in this self pity attention seeking "stage"?
Also, if you never complain about yourself, isnt this also one reason ppl complain about ppl that have no complaints about themselves? i.e. the person is too arrogant or doesnt consider his own faults,etc. Like the guy who talks too loud but doesnt realize he is doing it, and annoying everyone around him, etc.
This is the type of answer I was looking for. Anyone else agree/disagree with this?
Now the thing is, you say that if ppl dont do something about their problem, then its possibly self-pity and attention seeking. Now what about the situations where girls get together and as I have often experienced from listening to them, they will start complaining about this that and the other thing. I dont think I have ever been in a circle of girls where there are no complaints about themselves. Maybe I have but its been rare. So are many girls in this self pity attention seeking "stage"?
Also, if you never complain about yourself, isnt this also one reason ppl complain about ppl that have no complaints about themselves? i.e. the person is too arrogant or doesnt consider his own faults,etc. Like the guy who talks too loud but doesnt realize he is doing it, and annoying everyone around him, etc.
Any comments?
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I used to complain and whine about myself when I was in Grade 6 through to pretty much the end of high school. I think it is something all girls do cause the majority of women are insecure about their looks. Pretty much 100% of the complaints of these women are related to their looks.
For me, there came a time when I simply accepted myself the way I am. The way I looked at it was that how will it ever be possible for any man to love me if I don't love myself? On the flip side, how can a man feel so much love for me when I see so much negativity in myself? Obviously, there must be something 'right'/'good'.....I hope that makes sense.
Just cause a person does not vocally and publicly complain about themselves does not make them arrogant. Nor does it mean that such women are 100% confident in themselves. It simply means that they have learned to accept their imperfections and have begun to love themselves as they are; not as they 'wish' they could be.....and/or they do not complain about it any more cause complaining won't make any difference.
What makes women arrogant is when they become cocky and make it known to others that they think highly of themselves. Just because a woman doesn't openly complain or whine to others about some aspect of herself does not make her conceited or haughty. However, this can be very annoying to other women who themselves are still insecure about themselves. They feel threatened by it cause they themselves lack confidence.
Munni
i don’t know about majority of girls etc …but i know myself …sometimes i do complain about myself but not to everyone …usually its my ammi …n coz of my complains she almost always tells me a solution to make me feel better …n i do act upon her advice (btw, its never been about looks)
i had this problem of looks for sometime in college years …when some of my friends used to point out at my lips n make fun of them as they r not a smart thin line …rather quite visible (fat)…
it was quite much possible for me to develop the feeling of self pity …but thanx to my cousin who is my best friend too …she scolded me so badly n made me realise its not something i can change about …n if i’m unhappy with these i should give them in ‘charity’ …hehe
n above all she made me realise how thankful i should be to my Creator …n believe it or not that was the last day of my complain about looks
n now about every other matter (religious etc.) i do get inspired of someone …but again i try to think …whatever i’m doing …i can’t do without the help of almighty …i can’t even intend to do some good unless he wants me to do …so i want to go some steps ahead but still i’m happy about my position now
i don’t know if i made any sense …but this is all i can say
hi!
well i guess everyone should b contented wid wat he/she iz rather than gaining others sympathies by tellin i'm dis n tat n blah blah!!! our first proirty should b to work on our selves to improve ourselves . :)
take care
chaoz
