I havent worked in a consulting organisation before. Have worked for a few softwarehouses but not so much where one goes out to consult or is working with quite large companies..
So, im finding it a little i guess, annoying, seeing how competive some people can be. Especially within ur own team.
Most teams I have worked in, we’ve worked together to reach a goal.. not trying to steal each others thunder. Not trying to boss the other around.. just trying to work together so the team as a whole can be recognised.
This place is however, quite interesting. There are some, who are simply lovely to work with. Appreciative. Funny. Motivating.
And others, who just want to stick their nose into everything.
My way of dealing with it is to ignore ignore ignore.. but to be honest, it annoys me greatly, inside.
Either these people are intimidated or jealous.. or jsut simply not wanting anyone to be better than them. Uff.. it’s a work place. You come to work, do ur bit then go home. Dont tell me how much of a workaholic u r and how much work u do from home… i dont care. U dont have a life. I do.
Best way to deal with such people is to either a) ignore or b) confront them and call them out on their behavior in front of others. To do B), you have to have some coworkers on your side who are willing to stand behind you when you confront.
Or you can play their game, and be sly, and actually compete with them, and either beat them fair and square, or sabotage their work or make them look bad somehow in front of bosses/peers.
I have stopped caring. People who are uber competetive and have sour hearts end up with few friends in the long run. They just lose out on the important things in life.
Success is meaningless if you're alone in the end.
Im going to ignore. I mean, the person sounds quite silly when they are trying to sticky beak.
Do u think its a female thing though? to be highly competitive and look silly at the same time? or even actually feel annoyed by it.
Im basically just telling the person i know what im doing cus ive worked with the environment before, but if i do need a hand I'll let them know. What else can i do? pfft
Competition can sometimes create stress. And when you're stressed, you may end up making more mistakes in your work/assignments as opposed to when you're more mentally relaxed.
^Keeping that in mind, relax (easier said than done, I know). Be calm....even if all that stress from competition did manage to get you a promotion at work......it's not good for your health (high blood pressure, etc)....and it can affect your relationship with loved ones cuz you'll be taking that stress home.
Sometimes, in the quest to gain one materialistic thing (success at work, for example), you may be compromising or losing out on the things that matter more.
I can understand that some competition is healthy.....but excessive competition could be an indication of insecurity. And I think that maybe life is difficult for an uber competitive person. Being in competition with the entire world all the time has got to take its toll.....and can get in the way of forming meaningful relationships. It's like the person isn't even aware how much more complicated they might be making their life.
IF you get sucked into the competition.......when you have no desire for it....you could be fueling their behavior. Besides, I think it's funny to see a competitive person get all hyped up at the thought of "winning" when you're all apathetic about it. The image of them cheering at winning at a SOLO game can be funny.
If you allow this person to get to you, your work will be impacted negatively. Im currently in a situation right now where I work with a drama queen who has to toot her horn as loud as she can to anyone who has an ear. In the beginning, I tried to acknowledge her to help her feel better but it doesnt seem to get better...it actually has made it worse. Now, she likes to overshadow other people as much as she can. For a little while, it bugged me and I thought about it endlessly..."how can I work with her and maintain some sort of friendship -professionally".
The answer is you cant. These types of people need constant attention and feed off of your distraction. So dont get distracted by their behavior...pretend as if you've seen it all before and are extremely bored with their existance.
And then...FOCUS. Goal driven people stand out and make their mark without needing any horns or instruments. Their work speaks for them...
And then...FOCUS. Goal driven people stand out and make their mark without needing any horns or instruments. Their work speaks for them...
^Agree.
And it becomes easier to do good work when you're in a relaxed frame of mind that is free from the stress of competition. That way, your work is more likely to be free of errors.....which makes your look professional. On top of that, your relaxed attitude will make you a much more pleasant person to be around....which is ALSO part of being a professional. Professional work and attitude are important. An uber competitive person will either have only one of these qualities....and can risk losing both.