From your posts, hubby seems to have plenty of time, energy and all to be social with his pals…yet the two of you, don’t talk much during the day and any conversation in the evening, is usually over mundane topics? How come hubby doesn’t show the same interest in you as he does to his social life? I see it as you carving some affection and him not wanting to bother with it. Like really?
If you are not having luck getting your point across to hubby, have you considered some marriage counseling perhaps to help the communication flow between you two? Perhaps a different point of view for hubby to see that he could be doing a little more to keep his lady happy?