Communication gap in relationships is to blame for the majority of issues that couples face. Smaller issues (that the couple never discussed) eventually lead onto bigger problem(s). If couples actually talked to each other, they’d be able to solve almost all of their problems … says an unmarried person.
So here’s a question for the married lot. How easy is it for you to communicate with your better half? If you didn’t like something he/she did/said, how easy is it for you to talk about it? Do you suffer from fear of rejection? Are you afraid that if you start discussing every minor thing with him/her that you will create a rift?
If he said something i didnt like (and vice versa), then we tell the other (when we are alone) that we didnt like it and why we didnt like it. Ofcourse you can be annoyed (a bit), but yelling and getting mean is a no no.
saari! And with regards to your reply, that’s exactly the way it should be. I plan on telling him off for every little thing. jk .. I mean discussing every little thing with pyar mohabbat.
Communication gap in relationships is to blame for the majority of issues that couples face. Smaller issues (that the couple never discussed) eventually lead onto bigger problem(s). If couples actually talked to each other, they'd be able to solve almost all of their problems ... says an unmarried person.
So here's a question for the married lot. How easy is it for you to communicate with your better half? If you didn't like something he/she did/said, how easy is it for you to talk about it? Do you suffer from fear of rejection? Are you afraid that if you start discussing every minor thing with him/her that you will create a rift?
For some folks, it comes naturally. They hit it off right away and communication is fairly smooth. But for most people it's a discovery process. And for that, first you look into it with positivity, instead of getting ticked off at anything that isn't like what you are, then you don't analyze each and every detail, and figure out what works and what doesn't. Goes both ways. Eventually you start "understanding" each other.
On a serious note, right communication at the right time in the right amount is the key for both husband and wife irrespective of the compatibility and comfort level they both enjoy with each other. Of course, the more compatibility and comfort level, lesser the communication gap. But we can hurt anybody however close we are with them if we are not careful in our communication with them. Spouses are no different. I remember a thread which discussed how should the matter of baldness be brought to the husband without hurting him. This shows that we need to be careful when communicating with our spouses and we shouldn't think that they won't be hurt and they won't mind anything we say to them.
Communication gap in relationships is to blame for the majority of issues that couples face. Smaller issues (that the couple never discussed) eventually lead onto bigger problem(s). If couples actually talked to each other, they'd be able to solve almost all of their problems ... says an unmarried person.
So here's a question for the married lot. How easy is it for you to communicate with your better half? If you didn't like something he/she did/said, how easy is it for you to talk about it? Do you suffer from fear of rejection? Are you afraid that if you start discussing every minor thing with him/her that you will create a rift?
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So it’s a process and one has to work at it? Why couldn’t have Allah mian simply programmed the men (yes, its always the husband’s fault!)
jk, some good stuff there Niks.
But I don’t mean beeching about this and that.
hmm true. Am I too naive to think husbands and wives should be like best friends? If I can ask my best friend how to talk to my husband about his baldness, why can’t I directly talk to him? If he knows me, he’ll know I don’t mean any offense. If you’re considerate, polite and friendly, there sould never be any problems in discussing things.
haha yeah its fine in cases where you’re very pissed off but I’m talking about something like.. let’s say he/she burped on the table or messed up the closet etc…
.. I mean discussing every little thing with pyar mohabbat.
Why couldn’t have Allah mian simply programmed the men (yes, its always the husband’s fault!)
