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Hmmm it sounds so fishy. I would love to tell you that everything is cool and dandy but your own heart doesn't believe it....now would be the right time to find out...
Anonymous i totally knwo what you mean and are trying to say. I have had this issue with ppl and this comes because of the fact i live in a different country than them. When i go to pak my way of communication is totally different than my normal everyday communication while living abroad. I am careful wat i say and i also know tat if i say certain things in my routine they would b taken to mean differently in pakistan. tat's just an example tat i gave to ppl who r reading this thread to make them understand wat u mean. writing emails is not a good idea in my opinion because i take written form of communication as more like self communication. the words are ritten out for u but u can take them and interpret them in any form as the written communicationdoes not have expression and expressions are very important in any language.
wat u can do is like Mirch explained wait for him to come to the country u live in. He'll start understanding u much better. Right now u guys r in 2 different countries and i think u should not give up hope onthis communication matter. wait till he comes.
Meanwhile i think increasing distance in a positive way would b a good idea. i think husband wife are differet but me and my faince we have given each other so much space. i dont ask him bout everything he does and same goes for him. i dont ask him y he didnt call me when i was expecting n same goes for him. i giv ehim enuf room to miss me so when i call him or when he calls me we want to talk to each other. also guys r different. i 've seen some guys dont give phone calling so much importance even though they care about their significant other. So i hope this helps.
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Annymous, meet Notorious. Notorious, meet Annymous. Now you two ladies can blog the heck out of yourselves and your lives.
Anny, your posts repeat the exact samething everytime. Please blog all these details.
You said, “keep in mind whatever you say means something different in his language”. I thought that was quite amusing.
No one wants to understand Nagging Queens. Do you know what I do 90 percent of the time I come across nagging posts, I continue scrolling down. 
You’ve mentioned 1001 times that he doesn’t call you or whatever problems you have with him - people have said 1001 times that it’s probably long-distance thing, so be patient.
We’ve pretty much exhausted this situation of yours - if typing it up helps, then as people have mentioned before, please blog it.
hm, I knew there was something about Annymou5 that I liked, now you’ve showed me why 
did you know that nagging helps sometimes? you let it all out and then you feel better, well, the person listening to you doesn’t always 
But I think there is truth in it, I personally, when I’m sad, I do tend to nagg a lot sometimes. Someone told me to talk about what happened, to open myself so I can empty my head of the problems and then I’d feel better. It did help, I’ve nagged and talked a lot. I do feel much better. I hope Annymou5 does too.
Re: Communication Gap?
if language is not working
then use sign language
if that doesn't work either then use danda...
if that doesn't work either then its not a gap...but is more like planets apart...you are from mars....he is from Venus.
well sorry to disappoint u S-up…but thats the ONLY problem i have…
i dont know what u were expecting THIS time ???
If a person is troubled by something, sad, even when time has passed, and still not healed, then often other people get annoyed.
It is understandable, it can be annoying if a person keeps talking about that problem. But it's not easy for the person with the problem either.
Every person handles problems differently. Some people get over their problems sooner and there are people who don't. It's not their fault. You can't say, well, that person has problems, lets solve them in that amount of time. Then those problems shouldn't bother that person anymore. Unfortunately it doesn't work that way. It can take years for someone to heal while other people need less time.
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Yes notorious, it can take years for someone to heal - and it's cool, they should be allowed all the time in the world to heal from bad life experiences. That's not what I was on about, though.