Re: Communication Gap?
I had communication problems too, when I was first married. In our family we're more used to speaking pahari instead of Urdu. When we were younger however, my Mother wanted us to speak more Urdu. Nowadays my brothers do speak pahari and my mother is used to that. I think she gave up the idea of wanting her children to only talk urdu. Anyway, my ex-husband, was used to talking pahari, because my mothers sister didn't care about the language her own children speak, be it urdu or pahari. I did understand pahari, because I grew up with many family members speaking pahari, but I didn't know how to say those words myself. And he couldn't speak English when were married, while I didn't know enough French, so he would say something in pahari, me in urdu. He'd laugh at the Urdu, not always understanding everything. Me trying to talk pahari, was weird, my Urdu accent made my Pahari words sound strange!
But after a while, I did learn to speak it better though, when we were living together and then with time passing, the understanding of the words was better.
Maybe after you live together, then talk daily to each other, then your communication will get easier.