growing up, all i was really told about finding a spouse was... "if u have good understanding.. then thats great"
I took this quite seriously. I believe that when marrying a guy.. or actually in the premarriage stage, i tried to find someone who was relatively on the same wavelength as me.. or me on his. Someone who had similar goals to me in life.. sure he may have had different ways of getting to them as me.. but u know, at least we should have shared the same vision...
now, i can see how this can be kinda difficult to achieve in an arranged marriage scenario... difficult, but not impossible..
mine wasnt as such.. hence i got to seek, talk, compromise and had time to develop an understanding with the hubby...
i want to know, how do people forget about this core component in a relationship...? how do people forget that there needs to be some type of an understanding to retain the love.. or keep it alive.. even 2%... ? do people not believe that this is a very big big big part of having a successful relationship?
over the past weeks, if not months, i have heard/read a number of stories about bad husbands who dont communicate.. of wives finding ways to somehow gain control.. just crazy stuff.. did these people stop trying to communicate and understand? what has gone wrong?
yes, i am naive
its abt time we pl sud come out of this myth, no 2 ppl in this world can be on the same wave length its just a myth.
the thing that gets any relationship progressing in a cordial environment is .... finding a common ground , give n take , being mature enough to accept n accomodate eachother. no matter if the man n woman literally come frm 2 diff worlds , have diff tastes, diff ecucational backgrounds , diff languages ,diff cultures............. say even if there is nothing "apparently" compatible a relationship can be successful and interesting
and y wud u want to be with sum1 whose ur mirror image ?? where is the fun in that?