Not just for men you know.
At what point do you think it becomes a serious issue?
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When you dismiss every potential partner and make excuses to not settle down, that is when it would become evident.
Maybe not to you, but atleast to others around you.
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i think i have that or so I have been told.
It becomes serious when it starts to effect your life negatively. If you are content being alone then it shouldnt be a problem.
When you dismiss every potential partner and make excuses to not settle down, that is when it would become evident.
Maybe not to you, but atleast to others around you.
What if the 'excuses' are completely justified?
As for the dismiss, there isnt really much there to dismiss in the first place...
You make sense, much.
I guess the being content part is there 90% of the time.
What to do with the other 10%? A lass cannit just keep buying shoes all her life!
You make sense, much.
I guess the being content part is there 90% of the time.
What to do with the other 10%? A lass cannit just keep buying shoes all her life!
then how about ice cream? hands milly the ice cream
on a serious note...you have to ask yourself...are you REALLY happy not being committed? or are you just trying to make due? is it that you dont want to look or you just cant find anyone?
if you truly feel content 90% then for the other 10% you need to find something more fulfilling. it doesnt necessarily have to be finding a partner in life.
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The 'excuses' are relative.
I think that sometimes it is just merely cold feet but sometimes there are factors which hold people back, i.e. previous experiences, career aspirations, family issues. But these issues will not be permanent surely.
Can you say you have honestly given potential partners a chance?
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I have commitment phobia:bummer:
then how about ice cream? hands milly the ice cream
on a serious note...you have to ask yourself...are you REALLY happy not being committed? or are you just trying to make due? is it that you dont want to look or you just cant find anyone?
if you truly feel content 90% then for the other 10% you need to find something more fulfilling. it doesnt necessarily have to be finding a partner in life.
I would love an ice cream, but i'd get fat, and thats just stupid!
But the 10% is the whole wanting bachay thing. I can't find me a hobby that would give me a kid...unless I took up knitting. I could knit me a bacha!!
The 'excuses' are relative.
I think that sometimes it is just merely cold feet but sometimes there are factors which hold people back, i.e. previous experiences, career aspirations, family issues. But these issues will not be permanent surely.
Can you say you have honestly given potential partners a chance?
Of course I have. Ok, maybe not all of them but generally yes.
The factors you listed havnt really affected my decisions.
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I understand what you are saying. You are content with the way things are. Even though marriage freaks me out, I don't want to grow old alone.
It is just when someone normally says phobia, it suggests that something is holding them back or they are afraid of that thing. Is there something holding you back or do you just not want to get married?
I suppose added pressure can make these situations worse.
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I was a commitment phobe...took me a while to get used to the idea of marriage but it happened.
I think when the right person comes along, it gets easier.
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I think what is being discussed here might not be a commitment phobia per se. It sounds more like being afraid of getting hurt, disappointed and let down by a man more than being afraid of commitment itself. Women *love *commitment, remember!? :halo:
What if the 'excuses' are completely justified?
Off courses, excuses are always completely justified by the people making them.
Not true in all cases, as love can be deferred.
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ok what about those on the opposite end of the spectrum who are so much in a rush to find The One and settle down that they envision every regular joe they come across to be the possible knight in shining armor?
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It becomes an issue when you become a victim of your own experiences, or when others suffer because you lash out because you are less a person who lives for the future but one who is just a sum of your past.