Feel suffocated when you see wedding rings?
Alarms go off in your head if you are with the same person for too long?
Look for ways to break-up?
Have more broken hearts to your credit than what you’d like to admit?
Lonely nights? Guilt pangs? Grilling sessions of introspection? That irressitable urge to break free, disappear, never return? Commitment phobic? Welcome aboard!
Who is havin’ commitment phobia here?
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why would you have it? Is it b/c too used to being independent n afraid that you might lose it OR is it b/c you lack the ability to sacrifice n patience?? Whichever it is, I hate to say, this is one of the main causes of having divorce in today’s generation. And then yet again we complain why can’t we have a happy life 
Answer to your thread: No, I am not afraid to commit once I know the person is right. And for that one should have enough confidence on one’s choice and decision that wouldn’t lead you to be afraid of the wedding rings or commitment. Instead, to be proud of who you are about to give your name to or to be named with.
p.s Hawks shouldnt be afraid .. :-p
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^^ i agree! if anyone's having commitment phobias.. that just means theyre not meant to be in a "relationship".. they're just selfish, narcissistic a**holes. they shouldn't even be looking at wedding bands! and if they're wanting to spend sometime w/ someone.. they should let that someone KNOW their intentions. it definitely saves on the string of broken hearts!
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comittment phobics are psychotic shud b locked up
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LOLLLLLL - damn! you shoot me down!!:P
all of your answers revolved around marriage and all.....there is more to life than just getting married or relationships!!
It cud be related to work....relationships, simply daily life or routine tasks....hobbies....they just can't stick to the idea for a long time.....
Commitment phobics do have a serious issue. It's not any excuse to simply break up...they hurt too.. perhaps more than the other person cuz they know there is something wrong they have no real contol of actually. Commitment phobics... they also want love, when they get it they don't know how to handle it... it's deeper, dangerous and wrecking.
others might call them "Change-aholics" - some may put it as commitment in any relation or daily life as being labelled!!
So this is no fun or joke - it is easy to put it that commitment phobics are psycho or selfish etc - but do you really care to go beyond their phobia and try to figure out why they are like that?? you might try to create an understanding and help them over come it??? but you can't do that, because people lack time in this world....so you only look at outside, how a person portrays him/herself ! anyhow . . .
PS: Evil MasterMind: Hawk aren't afraid of anything:P They like to keep an eye on every aspect of life:P
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hmm:(
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i don't think committment phobia has anything to do with being selfish. it's more like something that's getting into your personal space and losing your independence. some people have a huge personal space, some don't. when you're in something, committed to something, eventually it is going to become part of you, and some people are just scared of that. and for some people it takes a long time to ease into something, while for others it hardly takes any (comparatively)
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yeah so back to the point hawkace. what's so scary in the commitment you're supposed to be making right now.....??
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life is risky if you were to doubt all of it. you wont even breathe if you were to doubt the air. running from commitment is easy, staying that way is hard. eventually men see that they also do depend on a partner. and for that reason, they perceive it as an attached string. little do they realize that if they were to be kind, they would be put on a pedestal and from the heart at that!
caution and developing a sense of confidence in each other will come with self disclosure and pairing with an honest heart. if you are ready for that, then do not make an attempt to lead anyone one to think up a relationsship with teh seal of marriage. apparently such a person is not educated and clear minded that the proposed arrangement of a marriage means that the relationship is sacred and not flaky any longer.
a certain solid level of maturity is required and when someone proves his self with a glaring immaturity, he does not deserve to marry a good person. even if he does get married he will be unhappy to others. or else, such a man as this can remain happily self centered and still not be content. that is his choice.
same for women.
Dushwari
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i don't think committment phobia has anything to do with being selfish. it's more like something that's getting into your personal space and losing your independence. some people have a huge personal space, some don't. when you're in something, committed to something, eventually it is going to become part of you, and some people are just scared of that. and for some people it takes a long time to ease into something, while for others it hardly takes any (comparatively)
Very well said....I agreee . . . =)
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life is risky if you were to doubt all of it. you wont even breathe if you were to doubt the air. running from commitment is easy, staying that way is hard. eventually men see that they also do depend on a partner. and for that reason, they perceive it as an attached string. little do they realize that if they were to be kind, they would be put on a pedestal and from the heart at that! caution and developing a sense of confidence in each other will come with self disclosure and pairing with an honest heart. if you are ready for that, then do not make an attempt to lead anyone one to think up a relationsship with teh seal of marriage. apparently such a person is not educated and clear minded that the proposed arrangement of a marriage means that the relationship is sacred and not flaky any longer. a certain solid level of maturity is required and when someone proves his self with a glaring immaturity, he does not deserve to marry a good person. even if he does get married he will be unhappy to others. or else, such a man as this can remain happily self centered and still not be content. that is his choice. same for women.
Dushwari
Dushwari, it is something that is beyond our control. Even though if we want to commit, we just can't!! Some phobics are just detached emotionally - it's not done intentionally, but that's how commitment phobics are. They are free spirit. They aren't selfish or immature, or unhappy people. It is just that they don't prioritize anyone in life. It is not only in romantic relationships, but they also have problems with other relations in life. Perhaps, they are emotionally unstable. Their feelings change automatically everyday towards everyone (even parents, siblings, friends etc). In some cases you have to make them fall in love with you everyday. They just can't commit, can't stick to one thing for a long time. As I said before, it's deeper, dangerous and wrecking!!
Thanks for your participation!
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^ this is not how it is supposed to be.
how can someone skip seeing the commitment and its importance?
one cannot just be let off by pretending to be that innocent helpless creature who cannot make a decision and worse, led on someone and then became a coward.
exactly, a wreckage is the obvious outcome, but more so for the non committing individual.
that person must change out of his own accord. debasing oneself is not acceptable.
double standard of claiming and indicating a commitment and then chickening out on it is repulsive.
but the strong, honest and the brave is not like that.
a true person is persistent, surviving and open to change!
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to imply that someone who can't change soon enough for someone's liking is in any way less than human is not right.
like i said before, some people can change real quickly. they can adapt real fast to their circumstances. some can't. some need to take their time. and for them, the person and the situation has to be just right, otherwise the end goal can never be reached. blame that part of the personality on the person itself, or the environment they were raised in...regardless...it doesn't really matter.
those who remain committmentphobes their whole lives, well it's just obvious that they have not been able to find the right things. and the reason for that maybe their hastiness into getting into a commitment, so that they can learn to be committed. but if the situation isn't right, how can they? i see it as a vicious circle, that can only be broken once both parties are suited for each other and realize that.
to judge everyone by the same standard, to expect them all to fit into one mould will not achieve anything. things have to been seen from every prespective.
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if that is true then no situation can be right.
then people can leave their families, run away from completing work at jobs, and not be mindful of dead lines and due dates. simply because they are unable to commit. is that mature? is it near responsible? it is not.
Dushwari
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i don't think a commitphobe is afraid of committment to every single situation in their lives. that's when plain ol' maturity and a sense of responsibility and duty kicks in. i know commitphobes who are afraid of commitmment in a relationship, but in every single other situation they can be taken as ideals.
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I don't think so I need to say more than what Khumar has already said. I agree with Khumar.
Commitment phobics are not coward or afraid of something or immature....It has to click for them. If the very situation or with very person they are not clickin' then it can't go any further. It takes time.....people just need their space...they are bold enough and st. fwd....all what is difficult for them to do is "sacrifice" their whole life...they rather put it bold to break up than tryin' to make it work just for the sake of it...because u have to do it in relations or mere other reasons...
they are not hypocrites!!