I’m in college right now - pre-med (of course, i’m a desi).
As much as I’m ok with going to college and getting and education, sometimes the pressure gets intense and I feel like dropping out and doing something less stressful with my life.
Sometimes I think its a natural urge to give it all up and get married and have kids - you know settle down and let the man do all the hunting and gathering?
Do you girls feel this way? Is it a primitive and natural urge? Or is it just my laziness? Or maybe I’m in the wrong field?
Perhaps this post should belong in General forum - you mods decide. I’m too tired to think now. Its 2 in the morning, and i’m still trying to prepare for the cell molec class tomorrow. Hey, idea, i should get off GS…
May be you are in the wrong field. It happened with me in school, I hated school, I still do and wanted to get out of it as quickly as I could. But once I left school, although the effects were there but I never thought abt leaving college. Particularly while doing my masters, I enjoyed every bit of it. Finally I was able to choose what I really wanted to study :)
Dunno about you but I go to college only to have some fun. Hangout a bit with friends and sometimes to find out exact dates and topics for the upcoming exam(s). :p
All the studying is done at home. Haven't taken a class for the longest time but still am passing with 'not-so-bad' marks.
Relax a bit. Take some time off (if u can) and spend some time entertaining urself.
As far as marrying some dude and having kids goes, I don't think it's such a bright idea. Gotta have an individual place in society besides just being someone's wife and a flock's mother.
PS--hey, in pakiland i got to skip the molecularities of the cell. :p I'm on muscles now!
i jus loved my college,i miss it sooooo much.....
and tht urge ur goin on abt i never had it*shukars* im lookin fwd to uni now,gettin married???? nooo way, atleast not till next 4 years;)
If it is really getting to you, take a year out of college/studies and work or travel (if you're lucky you can do both). Helps to give a fresh start and perspective in life, and serves as a well deserved break after god knows how many years (KG included) of institutionalised learning. Gap years are great, take advantage of them.
When I was in school, I hated it and couldn't wait to leave and now that I'm in college, I hate it. The work has trebled, the stress levels are at there peak and the work load is just too much. Sometimes I just wanna, leave everything and just forget about all the work for a while and not bother about education at all.
But nowadays, there's so much pressure to do well in studies as well as other practical activities if you want a good career, that the thought is just unthinkable. Besides, I don't wanna be stuck with living on someone else's money, just wanna have my own independence. Although the thought is tempting, can't afford to give up everything.
In this part of age I believe its your lethargy that is coming in your way of liking to study. I agree with ex communist that it is not the right time to get married and that you need to have your own identity. So better learn to love going to College. May be the field you are in may be the problem. Think about it and change your field.
PyariCgudia like all the others have said i think it would be a good time now to explore different areas of study. I think you would make a good sociology professor . Also the thing about marrying and having the husband support you, God Forbid this ever happen to anyone but what if he passes away or loses his job than one would most likely be back in school but this time raising kids and getting by with what you have. Its far more of a struggle than it is right now, you have less responsibilties and time is on your side to complete your goals.
If something is stressing you out that much then either your heart's not into what you're studying or you tend to be perfectionist. The people who excel are the ones who can keep their stress levels under control, pre-med, pre-vet, pre-law... none of those tracks are too much. Figure out the cause of your stress levels and deal with the source of your stress.
Take up some physical activities like intramural sports, it helps relieve stress.
It is sad to see that women are socialized to still believe that they are suited to only being wives and mothers. There is nothing wrong with being either or both but I believe that our world should extend beyond that. Marriage & motherhood is seen by many girls/women as a means to evade taking responsiblities of being productive individuals of our soiciety. As women we should be defined individuals with our own interests and lives besides being wives & mothers.
Keep your options open and work on balancing your life. As students, we have some of the unhealthiest habits in the world, but there are things we can do to make our lives more enjoyable which in turn result in tangible success (whatever your definition of success is).
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Marriage & motherhood is seen by many girls/women as a means to evade taking responsiblities of being productive individuals of our soiciety
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Where did this come from?? :dazed and amazed: Moms are therefore useless gibberish?? Hain?? And only the working girls are all-knowing all-smart all-mod-scod producers?? Uggggh....
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I'm in college right now - pre-med (of course, i'm a desi).
As much as I'm ok with going to college and getting and education, sometimes the pressure gets intense and I feel like dropping out and doing something less stressful with my life.
Sometimes I think its a natural urge to give it all up and get married and have kids - you know settle down and let the man do all the hunting and gathering?
Do you girls feel this way? Is it a primitive and natural urge? Or is it just my laziness? Or maybe I'm in the wrong field?
Perhaps this post should belong in General forum - you mods decide. I'm too tired to think now. Its 2 in the morning, and i'm still trying to prepare for the cell molec class tomorrow. Hey, idea, i should get off GS...
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Let me give you a rub RELAX ......
You r very tense ....
Breath in deep often.
Dont make goals & schedules & things to accommplish by this date too much
This country is crazy & gone totally crazy ...bonkers ..if you havent found it out as yet ..let me tell you
Everything that ill tell you will be anti Americana ...
No wonder american go flockiong to other countries trying to find source of there happiness .DO YOU SEE ANYONE COMING TO AMERICA BUT TO MAKE MONEY ...$$$$$$$$$. Yes thats all America is good for $$$$$$$.
Take that as much it takes to make yo happy NEVER and i repeat Never buy into the Americana idea of No.1 ERA,Changing careers 10 times in there life ,Its no fun paying debt & mortgage when you dont want to get up to go to work.
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Moms are therefore useless gibberish?? Hain?? And only the working girls are all-knowing all-smart all-mod-scod producers?? Uggggh....
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Its not the choices one makes but the reasoning behind those choices that make all the difference.
umm...gymno, I dont think the "United States of America" is standing in my way of happiness...
yeah, I do agree though, things here are more "robotic" and people value life differently in different countries. I dont think that moving to another country will help me though, it'll make things worse.
Thanks guys. I have been thinking of getting out of medicine, but I just dont know what to do otherwise. The funny thing is, medicine and science is very interesting to me, and i'm pretty good at it (well, with what I've experienced thus far). I think part of the problem is my workload - I think 17 credits is too much at this stage.
If you think Under Grad is hectic …you aint seen nothing as yet .Medicine specially requires both in school as well as in Residency to be on your feet & up more than 48hrs away from home atleat once a week.The reason is making you fit for emergencies of hospital work in future .
