Both my best friends at work are leaving. They’re the major reason why I love my job. One in June, one in November.
These are my only two close friends, in fact only two FRIENDS at work.
We share personal stuff, we sit next to each other in adjacent cubicles, one on my right one on my left. We call each other if we’re late to see why, force each other to eat lunch if one is not eating, and ask each other what’s wrong if one looks down. Pay for each other’s lunch. They are just my FRIENDS . These are the friends who really care about me and I about them. We hang out together, go down to get snacks for breaks together…
Hamaray mizaaj aur sochein aur aadatein milti haen…which is a big thing and very difficult to find specially to find such girls at the workplace…and I feel really close and comfortable with them I can discuss anything with them…I truly respect them and feel inspired by both of them in different ways and look up to them both.
I can be friendly with everyone but I can’t feel this connection that I felt with them with anyone. There are other girls at work too, but its not the same. I can’t be such close friends with them. Alhamdulillah I was really lucky to have found such colleagues at my work place whom I could connect to, I feel like Allah swt really blessed me…
but now they r leaving…
I know its been only 4 months since I started working, and one of these ladies has only just joined two months back…but we just really clicked and had something at another level, I feel like I’ve known them for ages and have become soo close to them. I won’t be able to find such friends again at work.
I know its nothing to get emotional about and one should never get attached to people at the workplace coz there is constant coming and going of people…but…I just got close to these two girls…and now that they are leaving…the thought even brings tears to my eyes…My whole day at work revolves around being with them…They’re the reason I feel happy and settled and comfortable at work, Un ki wajha se mera dil lagta hae kaam pe…when they leave mera dil bilkul nai lagay ga…
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*Originally posted by irem: *
I won't be able to find such friends again at work.
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Fallacy. Get out of it. :)
I can kind of understand where you are coming from since i have a real close friend at work as well who has been with me since iba and we sort of click together. However, please note that never ever a) one should decide on his/her college majors based on what his/her friends are choosing, b) decide on your employers based on this fact alone, c) decide to change employers based on this reason....d), you get the idea na?
Although you have not mentioned where for both of them are leaving, but that really does not matter. Please try to understand that you are at your current organization because you like the overall ambience there (true, your co-workers also form a small part of the overall ambience but that's just that). You will, for sure find others you can click with...and even if not, well, one can never always be satisfied in life and this is precisely where the concept of 'satisficing' comes in aka just coping up (and not being exactly satisfied/delighted).
I know i sound brutal..but hey, that's the stark truth i tell ya. :p
PS: Think about it. Some days back i am sure you must also have felt pretty much the same while leaving college (the entire rona dhona drama and what not :p ) but one just has to gracefully recover from these things. Tis life, my friend.
Hmmm…I think the colleagues and atmosphere do play a major role in your decision whether to work there…True though there are other factors as well ofcourse which play a major role too…but this issue is also important…coz you’re spending your whole day there you don’t wana be unhappy…
Its understandable, but its also a part of life..People leave jobs all the time. Just because they are leaving doesnt mean you cant remain friends..try to keep in touch with them :) Who knows maybe they will hire someone you will like.
