3 weeks to go and i feel positively mental.
I dont want to get married anymore. I want to cry my eyes out and every single thing ‘he’ does makes me want to tear his hair out and so angry. 
Is this normal?
Please say it is …
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Don’t worry. He’ll lose his hair automatically once he starts living with you. 
Yes this is normal. The month leading up to our wedding, hubby/I fought like we had never fought before. The stress of dealing with wedding planning, family…plus life in general was crazy. Both of us were “on edge”. Go get a massage and try to remain calm. This crazy phase will pass.
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^ this exactly!!!
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thank God, men don't feel that way, Inspi! :)
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i seriously wonder how people feel right after they get married. prolly like oh crap what did i do!! 
and theres no turning back.
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^ I think it's the opposite- overwhelming relief that its done and you can FINALLY stop planning and start living!
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I agree with sgc...you can finally breathe a sigh of relief and get on with what's really important...building your lives together!
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Agree w/ Khatti and SGC! After the wedding it felt like a HUGE burden was lifted from my shoulders. All that stress about the wedding day, wondering if anything will go wrong, freaking out over stupid details…and not to mention having to deal with my family AND his over wedding details…
After the wedding everyone left us alone and FINALLY we could just focus on living our life instead of spending so much time/energy on that 1 day.
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the dealing with both families and the wedding details is definately what is most stressful.
i want to run away to mehico and elope.
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I called it off 1 week before the event, told my mum and dad, mum went to bed and cried and cried and stayed there, dad muttered “kismet” and then we patched up and got married a week later 
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Why did you call it off?? Thats quite funny. I am glad we are all as mental as eachother :D
Its not that we are arguing/fighting and I think the long distance helps with that but its more I feel angry and stressed all the time and EVERYthing he says or does irritates the hell out of me!
I have decided to take a communication hiatus for a while. Lets see if that helps!
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I got scared as he started to become a little overpowering and i thought if this is what hes like now!! RED FLAG!!!
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don't have experience on this yet, but it's probably a lot to do with wedding stress. what i can say from experience is that long distance has a way of making one forget the good, fun parts of the person at the other end and can quickly bring all the annoying things to the forefront. everything becomes incongruous coz your lives are so out of sync - specially at a time like this. i'd say, take a day or a few hours off. switch off the wedding stress and duties, go hang out with your girls. have fun. if you can, do an online date with your boy, something that you guys enjoy doing together. no wedding talk, no past grievances. remind yourself why you're marrying him :)
hope this helps. in any case, just hold on and it'll be over soon :D
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good advice although me and him dont really argue thats not why I have cold feet. Long distance is good! I am just constantly stressed with wedding and take it out on him and I dont want to leave my parents, right now i would happily stay at home forever!
Online date sounds so cringe.
Is hard to explain I dont miss him, I am just obsessed with my parents and my friends and my room right now.
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oh yeah...it is a big step and the pressure you put on yourself to have a perfect wedding gets insane! I kept asking myself, why am I getting married again? My parents kept reminding me and pushing me along!
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haha, yeah, okay that makes sense. felt a twinge at the "my room". to be honest, i'm a little jealous :P I've relocated to a place that isn't home, away from friends and surrounded by family that I'd rather not be around, so I can get married. needless to say, i'm anxious to get it over with.
yeah, "online date" does sound pretty cringe-worthy. sorry, didn't know how to explain it better. my better half and I share a love for games and sci-fi so we watch and play online together during long distance periods. that has really helped us stay sane. nothing like shooting zombies together to make you fall in love :D
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I am also moving away to a different country and I dont want toooooooo :(
I like my husband I dont like anything else about getting married right now!
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I don't want to get married :(
I want to stay at home with mum and dad. I feel like I cant survive life without them.
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Hey Inspiron,
Don't give up yet :) It's completely normal to have cold feet before you get married but let me please reassure you, the feelings you have for each other and the time spent with each other before you get married and after you are married is soooo different!! For most at least. And it was for me lol. But after you're finally married let me tell you there's absolutley nothing like it :) your feelings grow like a mile a minute with evey second you spend together, all the feelings you have before you're married are like nothing compared to after it's official, it's so much stronger and better then :) and it's definitely worth it !!!! There is jusy nothing like knowing that theres sombody out there who loves you and cares for you as much as you do for them :) Just hang in there and don't worry if you don't think your feelings for your hubby are that strong yet, that's the way it's meant to be at this point lol! Things will change for the better soon inshAllah just wait and you'll see. And relax!! Once this time is over you'll wish you could do it all over again ! And trust that inshAllah your parents and family will always be there so don't worry :)
Congratulations on your wedding, it's a very special time in your life, enjoy it !! Xxx
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It's normal to be stressed out before the wedding. My husband and I even fought the night of our mehndi and on our valima while sitting on the stage I was pissed off about something and then he got angry. Then i told him to drop me home after the valima because i was upset and super sick. At the end of the night i changed my mind and went back with him! Haha now looking back it all makes me laugh.