Re: Co-workers from hell? Anyone? :(
Redvelvet - Actually I'm not a teacher.
I'm in the Public Relations/Communications field...just a very fast-paced environment.
Oh and the story about the contract I spoke of in my previous post already happend...I've already signed the contract and become permanent...my issue was how he lied to me and manipulated me into thinking I was permanent before I really was. He did this because he knew that if he didn't give me a permanent position, I would look elsewhere....essentially he wanted to keep me on his team...he didn't want to lose me...that is why he did that.
Re: Co-workers from hell? Anyone? :(
Redvelvet - Actually I'm not a teacher.
I'm in the Public Relations/Communications field...just a very fast-paced environment.
Oh and the story about the contract I spoke of in my previous post already happend...I've already signed the contract and become permanent...my issue was how he lied to me and manipulated me into thinking I was permanent before I really was. He did this because he knew that if he didn't give me a permanent position, I would look elsewhere....essentially he wanted to keep me on his team...he didn't want to lose me...that is why he did that.
We deal with this lying and manipulation regarding contracts in education as well.
Why????? Because he knows you're good at what you do. And he knows that he's DEPENDENT on you for his team's overall success.
But often times, people in authority don't like to admit that they "need someone". It takes their "power away". They like to feel "in control"....even if they are NOT the ones doing most of the work.
It's psychological. It's insecurity. In his mind, he thinks it protects his ego/power if he makes it seem like you need him rather than he needs/depends on you. Know what I mean?
It's kind of like saying, "Yeah I need you and am dependent on you for your good work, but I'd rather not admit that too much. Instead i'm gonna make you feel that YOU NEED ME for the contract."
If you read about the psychology of people in managerial positions....you'll read that they feel threatened by those that are good/better than them....and this drives them to exercise control through manipulation. Not all bosses are like this....but some are.
Re: Co-workers from hell? Anyone? :(
I quit my job because of co-workers from HELL like U aptly put it !
It came to the point where i hated getting up in the morning .
I think no amount of money is worth working in an unhealthy environment because not only does the stress of the job spill over into ur personal life but also it stunts your career growth !
Best thing you could do is MOVE ON !
Find something that only gives you job satisfaction but a place where you actually look forward to going to.
If all else fails one can always be one's own Boss !......Well thats my plan anyway !
i'm through with working for others ,I'd rather putthat much effort into my own practice instead.
Agree agree and agree
but at what point does one need to ignore the bad co workers?
I've yet to be a place where I wake up to a field of flowers and go skipping to work; there is always that one person or that one thing that you have to do that you hate.
I agree it stunts your career growth on the same hand though you can't keep job hopping, so what is the happy medium?
Re: Co-workers from hell? Anyone? :(
Agree agree and agree
but at what point does one need to ignore the bad co workers?
I've yet to be a place where I wake up to a field of flowers and go skipping to work; there is always that one person or that one thing that you have to do that you hate.
I agree it stunts your career growth on the same hand though you can't keep job hopping, so what is the happy medium?
You can ignore the coworkers if their actions are annoying but not jeopardizing you in any way.
IF a coworker's actions are jeopardizing your career, reputation in the workplace, and performance evaluation.....that's where you draw the line. Because this can't be ignored and is beyond the happy medium.
Re: Co-workers from hell? Anyone? :(
I quit my last job because of lausy co-workers who took all the credit of my hard work.
I came into this new place and when my co-worker realized hoe effective I work, he began to see me as a threat and would ALWAYS say something negative ONLY in front of our boss.
It only stoppped cuz I made him realize that I would not accept this behaviour. For a while I started thinking about swithcinh job but I dont wanna go from one place to another cuz of that kind of people.I just need to learn to deal with them. And eventhough I initially thought that it was gonna be really difficult to set some limits, it actually wasnt. Now I am much better in communicating clearly what I find unacceptable - though in a polite manner as I dont wanna get enemies at work.
good luck