what worked best for you and your babies/child(ren)
Did you or are you still sleeping with them or did you put them in a separate room? When did you do it? why did you do it? how did you do it? and for how long? what are your plans in terms of their sleeping arrangements?
please share your stories with us.
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in our case begum and i are diff schools of thought, i wanted the kids in their own rooms as early as possible, begum wanted them in the room.
errrr i lost..
so they were in cribs in our room and they would only fall sleep with us and then we will put them in teh crib. it was a mess kinda, room was too full of stuff, did not get good rest. I had a mattress on the floor where i would crash because i would have no room..
then they kinda started sleeping in their cribs and begum was out, I kept them with me in bed and their habits got spoiled and the y refused to go back in the crib. We put the cribs next to the bed on each side, and they would sleep there, come out and we would put them back in, it got old..
then we just sold their cribs, and had a futon for them in the room, and tried to get them to sleep there, but they kept comign to our bed. finally we got them toddler beds with theri fav cartoon charatcers and that did the trick, so they started sleeping in their beds in our room and then we moved them both to one room, they sleep there for the most part but conan#1 shows up in our room 3 out of 5 nights without fail and either we are too tired to send her back or just go tuck her in. for a brief period both of them would show up at the same time..and i would pick up my pillow and go to the guest room.
but that got better soon. Today we put them in separate rooms. lets see how they like having a room to themselves rather than sharing.
my advise..get them used to sleeping in their room as soon as possible, even begum thinsk now that we shoulda moved em out sooner. and dealt with the crying upon being left in their room, which we never could deal with
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It’s a different story each night!
When we had one, I used to lay down with her until she fell asleep then I would go back to our room. She usually slept through the night although we did have a monitor in case she needed something.
Then we had number 2. We put her crib in her sisters room that also had a queen bed, so I slept there for a few months as I had to get up for her feeds very few hours.
Then we had to move to another state and hubby went off before me. When we got here, we all slept in the same room for a few weeks, then it started getting rough as choti started moving around too much! So hubby went to the other room and set up his space there. So after the kidos went off to sleep, I would go off to the other room with hubby or sometimes if too tired, just sleep with the kidos.
Then we moved again to our current home. Initially, I was again doing the same thing as before. Then we had a few days of kids sleeping alone, we in our room. Some days all 4 together some days one kid with me one with hubby.
Now I am trying to get them to get disciplined about sleeping in their room by themselves. I’m sure there will be a breakthrough soon 
I agree that this should be a habit that is cultivated from an early age since kids get used to it and more interestingly…parents do too. It’s so nice cuddling up with little bachas. No sweat, no hard and fast rules. No regrets. But I guess they need their space now and so do we!
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Well ...on our bed my daughter sleeps on one side of me nd hubby on the other side .. even though she has her own bed that she never used even once ..(I wanted her to get used to her bed as soon as possible but hubby was against it) - so I just let her sleep next to me .. after she turned one I even tried putting her in her bed and she would wake up as soon as she would notice she is alone in the bed .. she uses her feets to feel if she is alone or not .. she would cry and come to me.
Its hard to make her sleep on her bed ...i think she feel more secure with me ...(us)
of course its nice to have her at night .. she is a good girl doesnt wake up at night and recently gave up her bootle.. but soon we will have to make her sleep at her bed .. thats the next step from becoming a kid from a baby :)
sometimes she would throw up at night .. so my hubby would rush to get something to put under her .. so thats when it was good to have her next to me and I would be there and she would not be throwing up in her room/bed without me noticing.
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I and my wife agreed to put them in the crib while they very babies . I was scared of getting baby suffocated while she sleeps in the same bed . When they would become two years old we moved them into their own room.
Now with our daughter it is different story. Every week two three times she would run to our room in the middle of the night telling us that she had a nightmare and then out goes the daddy and she sleeps with mommy. She still does that and she is 8 years old now. But not so frequently.
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We used a porta-crib in our room at first for all 3. I was afraid of letting them sleep with me thinking I might squish them. When they got bigger, we'd let them sleep with us sometimes even tho they had their own toddler-sized beds. Once they got bigger, it just got too crowded though lol! All 5 in a queen-sized bed just doesnt work too well!
Now, the youngest sleeps through the nite in his own bed, middle usually does. If either one has a bad dream or hears a scary sound, they'll come to our bed for a while. Eldest guy, we call him our "boomerang". He has to fall asleep in our bed. We move him to his bed. He stays for a while then comes back to our bed. If we send him back to his room, he'll usually go to one of his brothers beds...he needs a warm body to snuggle up to :)
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Aww! :swh:
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she is under 2, sleeps with me. donot plan to change it unless she is keen on it till the age of 7 after that even if not separate room has to be separate bed. so far thats my thought on the matter.
For the first four to six months, all three of our kids slept in our bedroom in a bassinet. After that, they move to their crib in their own separate rooms with baby monitor ON.
Now, our 2-yrs-old son sleeps in a crib placed in his room. Girls sleep in their shared room on a twin size trundle bed which is very functional and oh-such-a-space-saver girlie girl bed.
Occasionally, either one of our girls would come to our room by the middle of the night and we will tuck them in with us in our bed... but if we realize that it's becoming a habit, like more than two nights in a row or more than two times during a fifteen night period, we would explain them the next day that they need to stay in their beds if they wake up during the night, unless ofcourse if it's something really horrible, and surprisingly enough they quit waking up at night for the next 3-4 weeks.
So yeah, once in a while it is okay for kids to share beds with parents, as they might have a bad dream or couldn't get back to sleep once awake at night, but the next night kids coming to room is simply because they think mommy daddys bedroom is a nice place to camp around at night.
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The 7 year old and the 3 year old each slleps in their own room. Your eldest one slept with us till he was 4, from then on, he was moved to a toddler bed in our room and then eventually at age 5 to his own room. That taught us a lesson and our daughter slept with us (periodically in the bassinet and bed all night, and then the bed when she outgrew the bassinet) btill she was 16 months old and then her dad assembled the crib in her room, we put a sippy cup in her crib and after a week of crying she settled down. We still have 2 baby monitors that we use and do go and look at her and sometimes even bring her back with us if she cries.
The earlier the better I would say.
My 6 yr old does not like to sleep on his twin sized bed. He likes to be on a bigger bed next to either me or my hubby. 3 of us don’t fit comfortably on the queen size bed, so either me or my hubby take turn sleeping on his twin size bed! (We have tried to put him back on his bed after he falls asleep, but as soon as he wakes up later, he comes crying - “you were not suppose to put me there!”
He has promised to be out of mummy and daddy’s room - only if he gets his bed replaced to queen size! :halo:
Working on it! 
(My 7 yr old laughs at him. She sleeps on her bed).
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She's hardly 2 months, so it's a bit early to have any 'set' ways. We have her room all set up, but we sleep her in a bassinet in our room. We plan on moving her to the crib (in her room) between 3 and 6 months of age. We've been trying to get her used to the crib for naps during the day, but the li'l monster wakes up soon after and starts playing, thinking it's 'play time'. (My fault cuz after changing her, I usually put her in the crib to play.)