I went to a co-Ed school for primary schooling and then to a all girls school for almost 8 years. And then back to Co-education in my late teen years. And I admit the transition from all girls to co-ed was a little weird for me. You can call it an awkward social experience when I was ‘settling in’ the new school. And I think it held me back for a little time as I was a little shy when it came to expressing myself when generally I am a very confident person. What kind of school did you go to? How did it help you being a more confident student/person?
Do you think in todays day and age Co-Education is an important aspect of personal and social upbringing of kids? Or we can do just as good without it too?
If you could go back and change the kind of schooling you got, would you do that?
Nice. But do you feel like you had no other option ( going to an all boys school) because all you had were Co-Ed schools? Or are you glad it was that way?
That I did not have the option of going to an All Boys school is a fact. Would it have been a good thing if I did? I'm not sure.
In general girls seem to be more focussed on their education than boys, who often engage in "extracurricular" activities. So having a couple of smart girls in your class could be a positive motivator for boys to study harder as well.
Co-ed all the way from Kindergarten to University. There are very few schools over here that are NOT Co-ed. Probably less than 2%.
I was in that 2% school that you mention. It was a all girl private catholic church school. It was nice to be in all girl school as then girls would concentrate on study more and we didn't have the girl-boy tension that you usually have at co-ed school and certainly no teenage pregnancies that my friends that went into co-ed school had in their school.
But as I was in many school throughout my life, it didnt bother me to be in all girl or co-ed school, what mattered was how good the school was. Now I would not put my girls into all girl school only as I think its important they learn to interact with boys.
Right now my daughter tells me, this or that boy is annoying in class, she will learn to deal with such stuff, better now as later in life. And as Umer already said we don't have many option of all girl or all boys school, the ones that are, like no co-ed church schools don't take Muslims anymore.
Talking about public schools, where classrooms have 20+ children, I think boys and girls should have separate classrooms (I didn’t say schools) until the age of 14-15, purely due to the fact that girls are sharper than boys and that puts boys under too much pressure. Research has shown that boys and girls develop at different rates, boys are usually slower, but as soon as they hit puberty, they take over.
Personally speaking, I’ve been shy around males (specially the good looking ones) all my life until I reached 25 but my sister was never bothered by male presence. So I conclude it depends on your view and perception of other gender.
I changed my perception of them at 25 because I stopped looking at them as “male, an object with different biological traits”…now, to me they’re just human like myself and part of Allah’s creation.
THAT is very true. The competition factor that is. When you study in a all boys/all girls school.. it kinda makes you go with the flow without trying that much. Or maybe it was just me. =(
Yeah I completely agree.. the part about your dealing with stuff on her own. This is what lacked in me when I changed schools. But it did get better when I spent some time in that setting.
Yeah well all around Pakistan every class has 20+ students in it. All girls/all boys/ Co-ed.. all of them. So I guess that can’t be applied here. About the research you mentioned.. that is very very true. Perception of the other gender is what everything revolves around right? It’s like this is the key to how you react to situations and scenarios. I’m glad you feel confident now.
I am not really an advocate of co-education during middle and high school especially. This is the time, when boys and girls are going through the emotional and physical pubertal changes and kids who are generally shy if exposed to bullying and emotional harrassment might get into a permanent shell from which they won’t come out of.
Also hormones surface way too aggressively and the cascade of romance and love as being shown by media everywhere really warps their minds and they might get into hurts and heartbreaks which they are no way ready for.
However, during A Levels, intermediate and college uni level, co-education is a must because it teaches both genders especially women how to gain confidence and carry themselves well and basically get ready for the practical (mean, bad world)
I myself studied at an all girls school till my O Levels but A Levels and university were all co-ed obviously.
ive been in co ed all my life and i wouldnt change it for my kids (though i would rather they be put in segregated schools during their teenage years) i think its good for girls as they learn how to be confident even in when surrounded by the opposite gender and same with guys ....like someone else said girls are usually (not always) more focused on their studies this could be a good motivator for boys
Apart from maybe a half a year or so, I’ve been in a co-ed school system. I used to be super shy around girls but I think being in a co ed system helped me to grow out of it faster.
but I think being in a co ed system helped me to grow out of it faster.