Re: clubbing
Dancing, we are talking dancing, not sex… understand? you can dance in front of people without making a scene or even attracting a lot of attention. And even if we did, so what?
Islamically, you may do as you wish and marry who you wish, dancing or not. My husband and I did that and are perfectly happy with or without the blessing of anyone who wants to judge our relationship in any way. Again, having fun with spouse is in no way haram. And we all have different opinions on where the line is on what to do in public, yours is draw in a different place than ours is.
I think this became like the dating thread where everyone immediately started yelling wrong and haram because their definition of dating differed from others. What you may percieve as club behavior may be way out of sync with what is really there.
Another point I would like to make is that my husband and I are responsible to God for our behavior, not for a lecher’s behavior. A man can lust after a figure in a burqua, does not mean the lady in a burqua is at fault, the man is. Same for here. We may dance together, if someone stares, that is not our fault or even worry. We are together and we are doing something together as a couple we like. If we were at the mall and someone stared at us, should we stop going to the mall? Doesn’t make sense does it.