Re: clubbing
lol, some of you people really crack me up. There are some perfectly fine clubs for older people that don't have the stupidness and nastiness that the clubs for the younger people seem to enjoy. And who says that when you go to a club with your spouse, you dance with other people? Why on earth would you? You have a partner already, why look for others?
Clubs (if you are chosey) are a good place to go and have fun with your spouse and dance. If I am reading some of you right, you are either saying if you dance with your partner you are wrong or "westernized" or you are saying that you shouldn't have fun together after marriage. Why not? Is marriage supposed to be a chore and all fun stops after you recite vows and wear a ring? That is so sad, really it is. Flirting and doing things together as a team (ie dancing, going to movies, going out to eat) keep your marriage strong.
Come on people, lighten up, dancing is one of the most romantic things you can do with a spouse and flirting is awesome when you dance. I love the feel of my husbands arms, especially slow dancing or when doing the tango, now THAT is something else.
Think about it first as a COUPLE before you unilaterally condemn anyone who dares keep that spark in their marriage. Maybe the problem isn't them, it may be your percetion that is a bit off.