Do you feel aggitated when someone stands too close to you when speaking? When they have their face right in your face… its like they are trying to tell you a secret they dont want anyone else to hear..
if i dont know you well enough… or dont have that type of relationship.. pls plsssss dont stand so close to me… i still feel icky
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UGH I know exactlyyy what you mean! Worse is when their breath stinks or you can see the snot hanging from their nose… shudders Thankfully I havent had such experiences in a whileee… I am so not a people person. And another thing that seriously grosses me out and just puts me off when people come like thisclose to you and put their hand on your shoulder and talk to you… like gosh I hate people getting in my space and then having the nerve to TOUCH ME! 
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uuuh gross! well what if the person is talking to u with their mouth full and is like in ur face? uugh Im not bad with people.. i like people, i just like my space more than that..
When people are so close u can hear them breathe, thats icky... especially at a workplace
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I can totally relate!
I have a colleague who does that, and its just reallllllllly annoying. Back the flip up man.
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haha I know what you mean, basically because I speak softly, and people have to lean in to understand what I'm saying. I have tried raising my voice but then it becomes squeaky, and I end up sounding like a mouse :(
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This is a very common practice amongts newly migrated desis:S
they would come so close to talk to u and sometimes they would put their hand on ur shoulder while walking or talking :S and u cant even tell em to move away cuz its gone be so rude.
but i dont blame em cuz its very common back home
This is a very common practice amongts newly migrated desis:S they would come so close to talk to u and sometimes they would put their hand on ur shoulder while walking or talking :S and u cant even tell em to move away cuz its gone be so rude. but i dont blame em cuz its very common back home
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Yes! The problem does exist. But please do not generalize it and pin it to "newly emigerated desi" unless you'r refering to a lone lafanga from "back-home" on political asylum or tourist visa.
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not just amongst desis... ive encountered a lot of asians as well... aussies not so much
-------------------cvabn----------------- Yes! The problem does exist. But please do not generalize it and pin it to "newly emigerated desi" unless you'r refering to a lone lafanga from "back-home" on political asylum or tourist visa.
disagreement just for the heck of it getting very common now a days.
i didn say anything rude, and i didn say anything and YES i m generalizing.
unfortunatly u missed the last part of my post where it says that i dont blame em cuz its very common back home, its just the difference between cultures otherwise there is nothing bad in it.
and i never knew that ppl who seek political asylum or come with a tourist visa are lafangas.
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when I was in school,there was this girl in our class,who used to have this weird habit of holding your hand and rubbing it constantly all the while she was speaking....it was so unbearable,but I guess no one ever said that to her....
disagreement just for the heck of it getting very common now a days.
i didn say anything rude, and i didn say anything and YES i m generalizing. unfortunatly u missed the last part of my post where it says that i dont blame em cuz its very common back home, its just the difference between cultures otherwise there is nothing bad in it.
and i never knew that ppl who seek political asylum or come with a tourist visa are lafangas.
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Yes I'm generalizing as well on tourist visa lafangaas specialy when they stay over their visa waaaay toooo looong.
But yr point of such practices "very common" back home are lost on me except for boys-friends-men touching each other or having arms around shoulders are true, but the point of the matter that SADZZZ has raised in her thread is bit different. She is talking about person specialy men pseaking/standing with females in close proximity which is wierd and annoying.
^ Comment in red are your personal experiences I can not help you with this notion, but can suggest you hang out on gs more often than on other sites.
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^ aaaah maybe we know the same girl! a very good friend of mine at school used to do that.. it used to bug me like no tomorrow! actually any kinda canoodling makes me icky.. holding hands and blah... or walking with linked arms at school... i just dont get the point (unless its ur significant other)
-----------------------------cvabn-------------------------- Yes I'm generalizing as well on tourist visa lafangaas specialy when they stay over their visa waaaay toooo looong.
But yr point of such practices "very common" back home are lost on me except for boys-friends-men touching each other or having arms around shoulders are true, but the point of the matter that SADZZZ has raised in her thread is bit different. She is talking about person specialy men pseaking/standing with females in close proximity which is wierd and annoying.
^ Comment in red are your personal experiences I can not help you with this notion, but can suggest you hang out on gs more often than on other sites.
actually.... im talking about any gender be it female or male... and the reason behind me posting this thread was cus of a female colleague who comes way too close for my comfort zone...
so its not gender based at all.. just i dont like people coming too close to moi
If they do not have bad bread or bad BO or do not sprinkle me with their saliva when they talk then I do not mind, otherwise I constantly keep moving away from them . Some people do not take hint and would keep coming closer and closer and I keep on moving away and away.
But yes it is good manners to talk to anyone keeping a safe distance in between.
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I am a people person but I dont like my space being invaded. It is sooooooooo irritating and I cant concentrate on what they are saying because Im thinking "what the hell are you doing so close to me"...
-----------------------------cvabn-------------------------- Yes I'm generalizing as well on tourist visa lafangaas specialy when they stay over their visa waaaay toooo looong.
But yr point of such practices "very common" back home are lost on me except for boys-friends-men touching each other or having arms around shoulders are true, but the point of the matter that SADZZZ has raised in her thread is bit different. She is talking about person specialy men pseaking/standing with females in close proximity which is wierd and annoying.
^ Comment in red are your personal experiences I can not help you with this notion, but can suggest you hang out on gs more often than on other sites.
I believe sadzzz gave u answer below :) perhaps u r the one who missunderstood the question asked by the thread opener.
and if she talking about men talking to women and i started talking about men talking to men then sue me for this (jeez now ppl cant even tell their experiences)
anyways sadzzz made it clear so i hope not to see any illogical disagreement.
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oh I hate that…I take a step back and they take a step closer 
doesnt matter who it is really…I just dont like it when someone is standing in my personal space when talking to me.
That gives me a new product idea. 
. A shirt/sweater/coat/skirt which will convert into a personal fence when you press a button. I will start talking to my team of engineers right now before anyone beats me to it.
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^ and this reminds me of the Fisher & Paykel add :D
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haha…at Mirche’s inventive idea. That’d be great!
Yesssssssssss ** Sadzzz**, I can relate to it. It ends up being a game of ‘almost’ tag. I end up taking the step back, and they move just right up just like so many of you have already mentioned.
I usually experience that with my company’s VP And she’s a through and through English Lady. Therefore EcoShan,
its not just limited to desis… unless they’ve picked the norm from the English during their imperialist rule 