I am being a clingy, irritating girlfriend - always emotional and complaining too. He seems to be getting more and more frustrated. Guys get the impression I’m a really cool liberal chick - then they get to know the really desi clingy me and get frightened and want to escape.
I know our relationship is not going anywhere because we have chosen to put our careers first, apart from religious and cultural issues getting in the way.
He’s a very nice person (apart from irritating traits like watching cricket for 6 hours straight without talking) and is there for me 24-7.
I just find it hard to let go of someone I have been vulnerable with.
^ nothing to worry about. You are a perfectly normal desi woman.
There is plus and minus in every relationship. You have some annoying habits, he has some annoying habits, a little compromise from both sides should keep things smooth. IF you have decided to part your ways, then its better you move on. Easier said than done, but consider the consequences of running deeper and deeper into a tunnel with a dead end - esp when you know about the dead end.
Thank you. You are right. I want us to end on a good note, but with my wants and needs and his frustration, we are both just getting pissed off with each other.
Although you may want to end on a good note, maybe it is better to do so now, rather than later. You will have to do it at some point, so why not now. You could both be stopping each other from accomplishing other things.
I am being a clingy, irritating girlfriend - always emotional and complaining too. He seems to be getting more and more frustrated. Guys get the impression I'm a really cool liberal chick - then they get to know the really desi clingy me and get frightened and want to escape.
I know our relationship is not going anywhere because we have chosen to put our careers first, apart from religious and cultural issues getting in the way.
He's a very nice person (apart from irritating traits like watching cricket for 6 hours straight without talking) and is there for me 24-7.
I just find it hard to let go of someone I have been vulnerable with.
I am not sure of what i should say but married life is somehwat like that too: its not alwas rosy and like Janwar said, both parties have negatives and positives and you just learn to accept some of your spouse while they do the same for you.
I am being a clingy, irritating girlfriend - always emotional and complaining too. He seems to be getting more and more frustrated. Guys get the impression I'm a really cool liberal chick - then they get to know the really desi clingy me and get frightened and want to escape.
I know our relationship is not going anywhere because we have chosen to put our careers first, apart from religious and cultural issues getting in the way.
He's a very nice person (apart from irritating traits like watching cricket for 6 hours straight without talking) and is there for me 24-7.
I just find it hard to let go of someone I have been vulnerable with.
Cat stop blaming your self for being your self. If you were "the woman" in his life, he would be taking care of all the little details too.
Trust me its not worth for you to stay in this relation. I say only that part is being clingy. just let go.. You will find some one who will treat you with dignity. You are too mature to have such a relation.. where you got keep your real self, undercover.
The clingy thing is going to bother most guys. Even when you get married, and there's no "breaking it off" option then. Try to be less clingy and give men their space.
Try to take a person's neg and turn it into a positive. He wants to watch cricket for hours.
That's when you take his credit card and go shopping. shrugs
He watches cricket for hours? That's a very good sign of a committed, dependable and loyal husband. You should do anything and everything to get him to propose to you and tie the knot. Actually, don't wait for him to propose, most cricket lovers turn this waiting period into a test match. Just go ahead and do a Twenty20 on him with a chut mangni-patt biyah!
we made up. got him a nice prezzie too. But it will definitely be over very soon - it is inevitable and we both know it - probably by next week as that's when I leave for 2 months. And when I come back, he will be gone.
funguy! wow long time no see. It was better when we went to see the Aus vs NZ final on Monday. At least then I had people to talk to and other entertainment around me.
PCG, you're right about the marriage part. I am quite independent, but being a girl and having been very spoilt by the parents, I can be demanding.
Monk, thank you. I think you are right and I will take your advice.