Clarification needed on a couple things concerning Islam

NomiCA · January 26, 2011, 8:59am

Re: Clarification needed on a couple things concerning Islam

One my sisters, has a broader body structure compared to we other sisters who are more on the slimmer side. Plus this sis of mine is not as fair as we are but she has kinda wheatish complexion, not dark though. So this sis got married to a very nice looking guy. my BIL very soon after marriage, started to tell her that she doesnt look good as other women do. she is not slim, she doesnt dress up the way other women do etc etc. lots of things like that. Comparing her to other women he would see here n there. My sis felt really insulted, bad and shared it with me. I felt for my sis. On one fine weekend morning, I took shower, dressed up in a simple cotton dress, gave lil touch of make up to my face, left the home as i wanted to go the bank. I was on foot as bank was just on walking distance. On the way I saw a man, mature man, walking few steps ahead of me, looked back once for something and then kept looking back at me again n again. It was not something new for me or happening to me for the first time so I knew what he was up to. While I was getting irritated of his behavior, Suddenly a thought strike me. I thought what if this man goes to his wife and tells her , that she doesnt maintain herself as other women (e.g. ME, someone who had seen that day and liked) do. What if this cause a fight between husband and wife? What if there was my sis in his wife’s place? What if I have caused many fights like this between husbands and wives? This thought made me think abt why hijaab is important for women. I understood it from my persnol experience. I learnt it coz my sister was going thru something she didnt deserve at all. You cannot tell the other person to lower his gaze, you cannot control whats going on in his mind, but at least you have control on yourself. You can possibly stop providing that sight of you to those men who enjoy seeing it and which ultimately can result in situations like my sis was in to and I am sure my sisters face it. I or other women may not be at 100% responsible for such situations, but we do have our share, which can be withdrawn if we try.

so nicely written :k: