Re: Choosing the right one
I don't think Romance has disappeared. If there is a break up in relationship or marriage, it may be because there is no Romance present. I have seen on this board and other places where people encourage to break up or not indulge in a relationship because there is no love left. There are always two sides to it.
I have yet to see someone post here that her husband isn't being romantic enough and ppl encourage a break up. Instead, what I have seen are women posting abt husbands and in-laws who are mentally, physically, verbally abusive towards them, and the majority of posters who encourage her to escape the situation and seek help. Divorce is a serious decision that often brings a barrage of emotions and it's not right to belittle the concept of divorce and those who have made htat decision.
I firmly believe that as long as there is mutual respect, trust, commitment between the spouses, then they can stand together through anything. Every couple goes through dry or rough patches, where "romance" takes a backseat, unintentionally or not. It's when those few building blocks (trust and respect) go missing and there is no commitment on either end to bring those back, that a couple will break up.