Choosing life partner based on?

Lifestyle Relationships
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Hi guppans,

Are looks more important than career when choosing a life partner?

I mean what if one guy has a very good career but you don’t find him attractive and the other guy is attractive but not as qualified as the other career wise? Who would you choose?

I mean what was more important to you when you were deciding or if you are in the process of deciding your life partner? Question is directed to girls and guys both!

Thanks in advance!

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guppan=gs females, fix it plizz.

Its not really about one trumping the other, there are many factors to consider. It could very well be that a person is qualified and goodlooking, but has other attributes that one doesn't find right.

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What your preference is?

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I went for the whole package! Non-established men were out of my list.

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Being attractive (to you) and having a good career don't have to be mutually exclusive..

Bit of both.. Why not wait for someone who ticks both those boxes..

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Every girl want a security in marriage. It is impractical to say she wouldn't want to have this in her martial life. But knowing even for established person things can go wrong. Loosing job, can become paralyzed. What a person should go for is someone who is practical and ambitious.

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Choosing a life partner is much more complicated than simply looking at attractiveness and qualification. Those are only two facets of which there are many. There are many other factors to consider as well. Also, being good looking and well qualified are not mutually exclusive. There are loads of guys who tick both of those boxes. Personally though, I would think that personality is another important factor to consider in addition to appearance and qualification.

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^So true.. no point finding someone physically attractive + successful career-wise but then having nothing to talk about..

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You can ride the carousel and settle down with the beta.

For a lover you take the hot guy. For marriage you can take the guy you are sexually indifferent or mildly attracted to but not enough to have taken him as a lover. You know, the kind of attraction that "grows with time" and "needs work" and sh*t. The kind of attraction that is conditional upon x, y and z happening first, etc.

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I'm a guy and this is my attitude towards picking this right girl has three aspects, Looks, Personality and Goals/Career.
Looks - **To me looks are important, you can't totally ignore that because when you meet the person for the first time, the initial impression is judged by the looks so it is very important.
**Career & Goals - I am a very career oriented guy myself and I like to build short term and long term goals, so I encourage the girl to pursue her career. It's like if you've studied and put so much effort in it, why not reap the reward now. BUT, I have no problem if the girl does not want to pursue career after marriage... I feel like I'm a guy, thus I need to be a provider so it is totally up to a girl to be serious about career but I encourage it.
**Personality - **To me personality is a big, probably the most important thing because I always go by the fact that looks will be gone in 5-10 years, then what after that for rest of the life. I don't want to live with a super model who I can't even bear for a split second! Always looks for that initial click... and it is either there or it isn't. I kind of feel like there is not personality criteria that people match, it is just someone you click with.

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^Agree word by word dude!. I am same..especially that click we are looking for. Knowing no one in the world is perfect in looks and stuff..it is the right click u looking for...

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a person who goes for looks ONLY, is a super superficial person...!!! he/she should grow up and realize there are other more important attributes to be considered in a prospect.

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^In addition to that, a person's looks do not last forever! Granted, you can keep your looks longer if you look after yourself. However, they will eventually fade and when they do, what will you have left if you married the person solely for their looks?

That said, I'm not suggesting anyone marry someone they find repulsive or anything of that sort.

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I was going to get plastic surgery when I got older but now maybe not :(

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there are so many other factors to consider when getting married.
but lets assume that both type of guys you mentioned are meeting all the other important factors well and are somewhat on the same level and the only differentiating factors are the attractiveness and career, and if i don't find the guy attractive enough but he has a established career or has the right qualification mix, then i would go for him because i believe that once you are married to someone there always is a chance that you start finding them attractive with the passage of time. or your attachment develops in a way that these looks ,attractiveness take a backseat.
however,if the guy is such who doesn't seem to be a bit attractive or i find him sorta ugly then i would not go for him. but i would neither go for the one i find super attractive but who doesn't have a promising career.

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Choosing life partner based on?

Sometimes ppl seem to be so nice but actually we have no idea what they are :( and if it is a human it is not easy to say anything for them by looking them only.People know each other by living together.anyways best of luck! Don't go for looks a nice human being is better who appeal you.