I think I need a good dose of good parenting from u sensible guppans. PLEASE DO REPLY
Here is what happened:
my 6 years old son who is generally a good kids, off course boyish 
but mashallah good kid, has been going through growing up phases (I have one more thread regarding another situation in parenting forum) Lately because of various exposures, changes and his own awareness of the world, he is acting weird.
My parents inlaws were over for 5 days and that didnt help either bc they are not particularly good influence too. e.g they will tell me and my husband infront him why are you letting him eat xyz and then one of them will grab that xyz and give it to him. I dont control what my son eats but we do have some rules, if there are too many treats around I will give him everything esp if he really likes it but I will make sure it is spaced out. So I let them do whatever they want and that day my son threw up 4 times, and then they started complaining u didnt teach him how to eat, REALLYY!! I will never give my son e.g a brownie + kheer +some extra sukha nan(nan without anything bc he like it that way) on a full stomach.
They told my son if your parents tell u anything tell us when we call and we will thrash them from there.
They got my son an ipad for eid and told him to play as much as he want and only put it down when he want to and dont let his parents touch it if he doesnt want to.
So as a result my son’s head is confuse-mess and a bit through the roof. So we are working on undoing that harm we are having small talks here and there, some made up situations to bring his attention to issues etc
To understand our family atmosphere I have some health problems so i just went through 6th surgery, so that invokes a major insecurity in my son too. plus I have my own baggage from my past that i carry around. my husband is pretty good father very hands on etc Other than what I mentioned there are no big issues just normal life.
→ today after he went to bed he quietly came to me after 10mins and sat next to me and said I dont want to grow up and have kids, I said why and he goes kids are very hard to manage like myself. so me and my son had a long talk(longer than his attention span :)) I told him:
-yes kids are lot of work, whole family is a lot of work but family and kids are one of the best things in a person’s life like u r in ours
-i told him sorry if I get too rough with him sometimes, I will try to use better tone and words, but he has to understand and respond a expected bc we are like fingers on piano(he is learning piano nowadays, so he knows every finger has a house and responsibility to make the music) so I said if u or someone in the family will not do what is expected of them then it will not sound right, it is team work
-i told him thank you for coming and talking to me about how you feel, i really like when we have a good chat
my son thinks like a buddha baba sometimes, how else I should address his concerns, what do I need to incorporate in our home/family that he feels more secure. When he was turning 5 the big thing for few weeks was that he didnt want to grow old because then he will lose his parents. He started that after reading love you forever book which I think was a sweet book.
When you guys experience such situations with kids where you have to discipline the child but make sure not to mess him up psychologically how do u do that?
