I heard that in chilla(40 days after birth) the mum needs lots of rest and should usually stay in bed and ta ki she is not disturbed some people keep the child away from her when she sleeps.
I feel its now that the child needs the mother the most then why keep them away when sleeping?
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hmmmm Little Princess you minds works over time :D
yes a mother needs rest during chilla period because her body has gone through a major event. Child birth is not easy. 40 days are not enough it takes months and years for the body to recover. But women who don't get the luxury of mental and physical rest during chilla also very well survive. I did alhamdolillah !
and no body should take the baby away from mother. I would not have let that happen!
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Its a lovely thing to have some extra support in those first days and weeks after baby arrives.
But as with most things, too much is not a good thing. The faster you're back on your feet, the faster you gain strength and the faster your body can return to normal. In US, moms are up and out of bed within hours of giving birth unless its c-section where you get one day off before they get you up. Its also important for both mom and baby to spend lots of time together. But if you have caring people around, its a lovely thing to be able to get at least a little uninterrupted sleep! On the other hand, newborns typically feed every 2 to 4 hours so you'd have to wake anyway unless the caretakers are giving bottles which is a whole different can of worms.
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God how can someone stay in bed for 40 days if they have had a normal labour. I would go mad. My midwife recommends 5-8 days of bedrest thats if you can/have help, then definately get out of bed and start resuming life....you will probably die of depression if you had to stay in bed for 40 days..Honestly!! Who makes these numbers up anyway lol why 40? Why not 50 or 60 or a 100....blimmin heck!
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when i had my 3rd, my mom was over to take care of younger 2. She wasnt really up to the job so I came VERY close to coming home from the hospital 2 hours after giving birth lol. Dad intervened bless his soul.
So I had that nite in the hospital but came home the next morning and jumped right in taking care of boyz, getting dinner etc etc.
ack. I'd have LOVED a bitmore of a rest but what the heck. I did it, i still got my strength back and was back in my size 6 jeans within 2 weeks.
40 days??? I didnt even get 40 hours! Is there any way that I could get some retro-active chilla?
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From the above replies I understand that its no problem to get up and walk around and keep the kid with you.
I just got a bit upset when my cousin’s was told that her kid wont be sleeping with her so that she can have rest.
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^ She should never be TOLD that. If she needs the sleep and someone offers to take care of the baby, that's great. But she should not be forced into the situation.
Plus it's important to nurse every 2-3 hours if you can, in order to establish milk supply in those early days. Of course I did take my mom up on her offer to keep the baby over night a few nights.
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you have been opening some very interesting threads lately. lol!
back to your question - what a lucky mom to have such caring people around her! but need more info on it to understand their culture. maybe the new mom will think it normal.
Yeah She didnt like the idea either.
iyla:hugz: just gathering some information:@:
nah..cousin didnt like it much.She got a kid after 7 yrs of waiting.She definitely didnt like it.
Little bit of rest helps but as I heard in Pakistan ladies "to haath bhi nahi lagateen kisi cheez ko" is wrong.:D You need a little time to rest so if for a while someone can hold your baby is a good thing. But seriously if you get active and start doing your activities is better. If you lay down all the time on bed how can you do that I don't know :D