there is fairytale in children? Dont tell me ... the stork brings them :D
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*Originally posted by hmcq: *
there is fairytale in children? Dont tell me ... the stork brings them :D
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You know what I meant meany.No really you make this whole having kids stuff sound so...so technical.I mean alright I do agree that a couple shouldnt wait forever to have kids.If they want to be at a younger age to see their kids married, and see the grandchildren, its very sensible.
Par there are so many factors that affect a couple and their decision to have kids.It doesnt always work out so perfectly.
And I wish the stork brought them.it would make things a whole lot easier.:p
Exactly my point, there are so many things that affect it. All I was saying after you count all the things, this is what you get.
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*Originally posted by kewlsolara: *
if you have a girl, should be atleast 1 yr gap.
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Its hard to have less than a year's gap anyway... unless you are talking about conception and not birth :)
Anyway, its a personal choice, pure and simple. A friend of my father has five kids spread over 23 years. Yes, he just has one wife. His theory (or rather the couple's theory) is to have a child in every age cz for them it is so much fun to raise kids and enjoy time with them. So their youngest was born when the gentleman was about 53 years old. Wife is probably a few years younger. Their eldest son is married and is about 34. The youngest is in 6th grade. I guess, this is one way to delay the start of empty-nest period.
Yeah but you have to wonder what happens when the parents pass away (khuda na khasta) and the kids still in High School or college. What is he gonna grow up as? Who provides the cultural and social environment for him, when he doesnt have parents at that age? I consider it very selfish of parents to do that. Sure I could have kids at 70 but I am depriving them of a lot of normal things just because I want to have a kid at that age.
going by your stats I still have 4 1/2 years.Thank God.
wait a min.Thats not very long at all.
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*Originally posted by hmcq: *
Yeah but you have to wonder what happens when the parents pass away (khuda na khasta) and the kids still in High School or college. What is he gonna grow up as? Who provides the cultural and social environment for him, when he doesnt have parents at that age? I consider it very selfish of parents to do that. Sure I could have kids at 70 but I am depriving them of a lot of normal things just because I want to have a kid at that age.
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Yea.. you can call it selfish or what ever. The idea is not to criticize that particular couple, but just to provide an example that different people decide differently.
Waisay, no one knows how long they will live, anyway. Plus in this case they have elder brothers who are well established in their fields. So, its securer than the case where a father dies while all four kids are in school or something, if you get my drift.