Re: Children calling parents by their first names
^ They do not seem disrespectful at all. It's just what they call their parents.
Re: Children calling parents by their first names
wats in a name people??? a rose wud smell juz as good even if it had any other name.
people are so exposed to all kinda so called "parental concepts", yes these concepts are good in their own way.... but at the end of the day we seriously need to use our god-given common sense and logic to do our stuff (raise kids, handle relationships etc)
We didnt juz grow into the adults we are today.... we were influenced by the whole goddamn environemnt we lived in back then, our families, neighbours, peers etc. not to forget our good old genes.
the point is whats the point in all these parental concepts? juz be ur good self, set gud examples for ur kids, give them the best u can afford, educate them and let them be normal human beings with flaws. and in the process of raising them, in the process of moulding them into good human beings. sacrifices are inevitable. one way or another, we can neva go wrong in this task that we as parents took upon ourselves.
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I think it is ridiculous the child calling parent by name. It just shows the kind of respect the child will have for their parents.
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when you call your friend/siblings/childrens by their first names, do you not have respect for them?
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Freinds/siblings do not have hte same status as a mother does.
Okay, if thas what the kids call their parents fine, but again, what right does someone have to say that a woman who carried a baby in her womb for nine months, who gave life, does not deserve to be called "mother"? Why is "mommy" suddenly a demeaning term? That is what the woman in the original post said, in an attempt to have an "equal" relationship, she feels her partner doesnt deserve to be called Mommy or mother.
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Sara:
If you read her in context, she is objecting against essentialism and the exclusivity that comes with the term "motherhood". She is saying it is a social construction. She is not denying her partner's "right" to be called mother, but society denying her right to that identity because it priveleges biology. Many lesbians wanting to become mothers choose known donors because they don't want their children to suffer id est "don't you have a dad? everyone has a dad?". Society forces upon these women the idiotic concept that there can only be one mother, even though in many of the cases I looked at, the non-biological mothers is the one doing more mothering.
The same critique I quoted applies to men. But with men, breadwinning is prioritized, they are good fathers because they aren't deadbeats, women are good mothers socially because they give up everything for their child. Sorry, that is not for everyone. I think there are some good changes occurring, albeit slowly.
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look, if the act of mothering can be duplicated by one who is not the biological mother.....if all "mothering" is, is a series of carefully coordinated stimuli, and carefully planned out lessons to be taught, than females, lesbians or heterosexuals or transexuals or bestiality fetishists or whoever, are not needed at all for "mothering" to take place.
the fetus can be placed in charge of a privatized industry or a government agency for proper "mothering". is that what you want SarahSplendor?
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^^Do you guys even read what she's posted before going off about it? ?
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You can call your mother "mom", "khala", "with her name or pet name" but that won't change the fact that she is your mother. If you can respect, honor, care, and comfort her then it really doesn't matter if you call her mom or by other name.
this topics is kind of linked with the one in general "don't judge a book by it's cover". If someone is calling their parents by their name and parents don't have a problem with that the who are we to decide if it is right or wrong, ethical or unethical or who are we to decide if that person is insulting their parents, etc.
If parents don't have any problem then who are we to say "OMG, that guy called her mother by her name....."
I guess I have repeated the same point but we are not one to decide what people call their parents, sibblings, relatives, etc nor we are supposed to make judgements/comments if we don't know anything about their life style, prefrences, etc etc.