Iseen a few children both very young and teenagers who address their mother as “toon” as in “you” sorry for the ill spelling of it. I have never referred to my parents in such a manner and frown upon it when I hear this, but some think its normal and that I’m over exaggerating 
I’m not old fashioned every mother has the right to some respect especially when being called. 
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we woulda been smacked so hard for saying "tu" to anyone in the family, not just our mum! dad, siblings, relatives, naukars, whomeever- you just didn't do it. it was always aap and amongst ourselves (the siblings) we were tum.
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Tell me about it my mum would have given us that look that squashes your insides if we said that… what i find more annoying is that the parents don’t think theres anything wrong with this
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i agree wth SGC v r not allowed to say tu to anyone regardless of age yeah v call younger ones n r siblings tum...........
but u c everyone has own opinions they dont mind this thing tht y children keep on saying this n eventually it becomes there habit
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Same here. I've always been told to use 'aap' no matter who it was...even between cousins and siblings! My older cousins got in the habit of saying "tum" once they visited Pakistan, but that was only with cousins and friends...never our uncles/aunts/parents. Now, even when I try to use 'tum' or 'tu' I feel so awkward, lol.
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Apart from elders, we refer to each other with ‘tu’ in punjabi :k:
It is disrespectful if you adress elders with tu or tum.
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I agree. It is disrespectful if you address elders with Tu. Tu commands are used to tell someone you know to do something. They are less formal than usted commands, although they both refer to singular YOU.
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in Lucknow, even if you say like "aap khaao" is considered disrespectful...they say "aap khaaiye" ... isii taraH se..."aap khaa" lo vs "aap khaa leN" etc!
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We don't say tu neither, instead it's tusa. I think it's punjabi we speak and we would of most deff got a beating for saying tu to elders! Only amongst younger lot we say tu.
When I went to pak all of the kids etc said tu to the elders, I found it sooo disrespectful and annoying
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^My family is exactly the say, we speak Punjabi as well so it's 'tussan' for the elders and 'tu' for kids. No way in hell would any of us use 'tu' with people older than us.
Even when we speak Urdu, we always say 'aap', I rarely say 'tum' or 'tu' to anyone.
I think that maybe cos more and more kids these days speak English and there is only 'you' which doesn't differentiate the way Urdu/Punjabi does, so they just like to stick to one word? I dunno.
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You know, a lot of goray say tu/tum to their parents. (Not talking about the english language where 'you' means aap and tum).
Their parents are fine with it and even taught them to say tum instead of aap.
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Also in English if we are talking bout mum or dad we wouldn't say "what is he doing?" we'd say what are they doing.
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^ really 
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Maybe its not disrespectful.. but more the area or culture they have grown up with??
Its not necessarily a bad thing… its just maybe we (you) havent grown up that way… just maybe?
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Well its seen as disrespectful if you call your mother "she" or dad "he"
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My mum doesnt know English and dad speaks a lil bit like just standard stuff but they didn't tell us that. Just something we've always said so now saying he or she seems disrespectful to us.
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Well its seen as disrespectful if you call your mother "she" or dad "he"
Wow I never really thought of it as disrespectful. I guess I can understand it..........but it seems so natural to say he/she, what else would you say? Whenever we are talking amongst ourselves we refer to mom as she and dad as he.............Mom gets mad at us when we do that....but I thought that was mom being mom :/
I never call any of the elders tu......I use tussi instead.
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Wow I never really thought of it as disrespectful. I guess I can understand it..........but it seems so natural to say he/she, what else would you say? Whenever we are talking amongst ourselves we refer to mom as she and dad as he.............Mom gets mad at us when we do that....but I thought that was mom being mom :/
I never call any of the elders tu......I use tussi instead.
Don't be misled - "he" or "she" isn't disrespectful, nor is it a familiar use when referring to an elder.
"They" is grammatically incorrect and it is an attempt to apply grammar and language rules from the Romance languages such as French, Italian or Spanish.
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Yeah ‘they’ didn’t make sense to me either…that is why I was wondering what we would refer to them as..if not she/he?
LOL I’m just surprised because we always laugh whenever mom exclaims that she isn’t a “she!”
In her words, “meh thaddi she lagdi ah?!” 
We try to explain it to her but she doesn’t want to hear us out. It’s interesting that other people think of it as disrespectful too…