Do you ever find yourself feeling hurt or saddened when your friends are always getting together, like throw birthday or graduation parties for each other never invite you along (much less ever think of doing that for you)?
I know you guys may find it childish or petty to be hurt by these things, and in fact one part of me is ashamed of feeling hurt by it but another part feels justified.
I’ve known these people for several years. I’ve shared so many private things with some of them that I cringe when i think that I was ever so free with any of them, but then I remember, wait they’ve never shared anything with me, come to me for advice or talk to me about anything. Even when they throw small parties for each other, I’m just not there, instead I hear about it from someone else or I’ll see the pictures on MySpace. Okay it happened once maybe its a mistake but again? And everything else too. I always see htem making plans to do this or that, or they talk about their private problems right in front of me and I just don’t want to be the type to butt in and say “whats wrong? what happened?” because I would do that once a long time ago and stopped because I figured out i was only embarrassing myself.
Maybe I don’t spend 24/7 with them and talk to them on the phone til 3 AM or take the same classes as them and go to each others houses every weekend, but I think I make quite an effort in keeping in touch, in school and online. But then I think shouldn’t friendships be effortless? Is it really me? Am i the problem? Am I the person that nobody wants to invite or be around too much? And I wish I could talk to em about it but then I think what would that accomplish? That i’m the whiny ***** who just complains and complains and complains? That there’s no point in being around her? I should just give up and realize that they’re not really my “friends”, even though they’re nice and stuff and maybe in their definition I probably am but in my book they are definitely not at least not right now, probably not ever.
Well I spoke to one of my friends, she says its not on purpose but that I don't make an effort coz i'm never around. I dunno what to think, I thought I was trying hard enough but I guess not...
some people need an ego-rattle.
so, don't take it on ur self.
in time, they will learn that they have been inconsiderate.
you won't even have to spell it out to them.
find new friends
& be selective in who you make your close friends.
rest, are either not friends at all, or they need to brush up their maturity level.
know that your best & close friends are always mindful of you & remember you as well as share with you, every concern - in all their good times and bad.
Anyway, its all over and done with... i have other friends so its not like i'm very lonely or antisocial, but..u knw, its the amt of time i've known them, i thought htat wud count for something but it really doesnt..'ve moved on tho
