I’m on such a roll with these topics.
Okay, I’m sure many pple here know divorced couples in the Pakistani community.
How many guys are really keeping up with their child support and how many abandoned ship?
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Im glad your bringing these topics, as they seem to be swept under the carpet and not openly discussed.(im talking about in real life).
As a single parent myself, i have never demanded child support from my ex. He lives in Pakistan, and im abroad. Asking for child support would have meant alot of headache with parental rights, visitation and further legal complications. So i never asked for it.
My ex being a child himself never once offered to pay any support or send any gifts for our baby. He didnt even wait to see the baby and sent the divorce papers, without paying haq mehr. Ive had it with his abuse, and asking for child support would be draining whatever i have left in me. Im better off. I can support my child myself.
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Sometimes, even this can turn into an issue of the male ego. If it is the wife who walked away for whatever reason, she needs to be taught a lesson in the form of not paying any support for her/their children. Islamically speaking, even during a separation, the husband is responsible for providing financial support for his wife/child. If divorced, the husband is supposed to provide for his child.
What some women do is ask themselves if it is even worth the battle of asking for child support. Most of the time, it's not worth it if it means being dragged down into some never-ending argument. Alhamdullilah, a lot of girls these days are educated and have skills ... so they really don't need to rely on their "husbands" for child support.
If they provide child support, it's their duty. It's not something one should have to grovel for, and it's really not something a woman needs to feel grateful for if she receives it. The man is providing for a child they took part in creating - it's his duty and he'll get severe gunnah if he doesn't or decides to play games in this area too.
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I know one situation, and the guy is actually fulfilling his responsibilities wrt child support. So yeah, not all of the pakistani guys are d-bags.
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I think children should be supported.
On stakes.
I'm on such a roll with these topics.
Okay, I'm sure many pple here know divorced couples in the Pakistani community.
How many guys are really keeping up with their child support and how many abandoned ship?
Are you asking about Men here is US or in Pakistan?
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Pakistani men, whereever they may roost.