Okay I am dealing with some issues with my child, help me out and give me some ideas.
1) First of all, my 3 year old son sleeps with me. We are trying to transfer him to his own bed. We have bought a sofa-cum-bed for him and join it with our bed at night. He needs to sleep with me on his side, so when he goes to sleep we put him in his own bed. But during the night when he wakes up, he jumps back in with us. Sometimes, I transfer him back to his bed but sometimes I dont. We are expecting another baby in 6-months. We have a room for him in the house, we havent really arranged it yet, but it is full his toys. I want to buy the furniture for him and make him sleep in his own bedroom. But he’s not even willing to sleep in his own bed. Give me ideas on how to make a child like his own bed/room.
**2) **Secondly, this is a really difficult stage for me. I am expecting and most of the times I am not feeling that well. Due to low BP and nausea. My son, has developed a new habit of screaming and crying over little things. First I try to deal with him nicely, but then I lose my patience and shout at him at times. He’s also turning to be a monster. He seems okay at home but whenever we got out, or go to someone’s place, he gets overexcited and does everything which I hate. Like jumping on the furniture, going in their other rooms, shouting, like hyper active kids. I am looking for a solution for this problem because I feel that my yelling at him is making things only worse, he’s getting DHEET. And I really dont like kids like that. I try to be as nice and polite with him as I can. Overall he’s a good sensitive kid. But these problems are making me nuts. And I wonder what will happen when I have another child to take care of. Is it true that he’ll be fine when he joins the school. His hyperactivity will be used in other activities?
I watched a program that aired in the US called "Super Nanny" and she addressed the issue of sleeping so nicely. The child in the program was nuts about sleeping but within a few days, she had the child straightened out. This is how she handled it. Put the child in bed, soft lights and NO other stimulus - no toys etc for the child to get excited over. Bed, blankets and soft lights, maybe a cuddle toy. Sit on the floor next to the bed with your back turned so the child knows you'r there but DO NOT make eye contact with the child, do not talk or pay attention to the child. When the child gets up, quietly put him back to bed without talking or making eye contact. Once the child has been quietly in bed for about 30 min, move closer to the door. Repeat as necessary. The parents in the program had a few very, very long nights but by the 3rd night, they could put the child to bed and just walk out of the room.
As far as the hyperactivity etc....3 is a really, really tough age and my middle son went thru the same thing. We discovered that he really wasnt getting enough attention. 3 yr olds need constant attention, positive reinforcement and love. Really constant. My boy was much like yours but in addition, he was biting his fingernails to chopmeat and having major tantrums. My eldest boy has some troubles so its necessary to give him much attention and my middle boy was getting less. Once we figured that out and started giving him more, he improved by leaps and bounds. He also outgrew the horrible stage of "being 3" (I think 3 is MUCH worse than the so-called "terrible 2's!!!". He no longer bites his nails and no longer has the tantrums. At age 3, they're old enough to listen so when he's doing something wrong, find something else that he would enjoy doing (re-direction). This works wonders although it can be very tiring at first. But in the long run, its well worth the effort. Also, when he's having troubles listening or having a tantrum, calmly tell him that you dont understand him when he's being too loud and crying. So stop crying, tell me whats wrong and we'll fix it together. That works like a charm, especially once he sees that things actually DO get fixed when he doesnt cry, whine or scream.
I hope this helps....I know its a really tough thing to go thru, but it DOES get better!
ps....if he's truly hyperactive, limit his sugar intake. Also, Flax Seed oil has been shown to help children with hyperactivity. I use this with my 5 yr old boy who truly has Attention Deficit disorder and he has had some improvement since we started using it. But it sounds to me like your boy is just a 3 yr old struggling with 3-yr-old issues.
What u need to do is arrange/decorate his room. Stay with him in that room till he goes to sleep. If he wakes up in the middle of the night and try to get in ur bed. Take him back to his room and tell him that hes growing up and he shouldn't be needing his mommy now. (trust me when kids are 2 and 3, all they wana be is equilant to grown ups) Just try to lure him to his room. I m sure it will work
Another one of ur probs was that he gets hyper at other pepz places. Well first of all u shouldn't let him take any drinks with caffeine(pepsi, mist, etc) and anything with sugar (choclates, cookies, candies etc.). If he still misbehaves give him a time out. Do not talk to him, leave him in a room and ask him to sit in a corner for 5-10 mins. Tell him hes being punished for his behavior, hopefully it will work.
Good luck to u
and congrats
You are not dealing with anything that is out of the ordinary. But being pregnant and having an active child to deal with is difficult.
First and foremost....what kinds of activities is your son involved in during the day? It is impossible to comment on the sleep issues until and unless one has a complete picture of what's going on with the child on a routine basis.
Kids his age.....like my daughter.....need activities in their life. If they are not in daycare or pre-school, then they need some sort of physical action that will give them a workout. So what is the routine for him from the time that he wakes up and to the time that he goes to sleep?
Mamaof3 - I was hoping and waiting for your reply :)
I have heard that program too, and its aired here too but I dont know what time. I guess I should do some research and start watchin Super Nanny.
Thanks for that idea, I think it might work. Because, even now when I put him to bed he doesnt want to go to sleep and starts talking or jumping on the bed. I just lie down with him with my eyes closed, until he exhausts and sleeps. But first of all I am going to buy the furniture for his room. I think I might take him along and ask him what kind of bed he likes.
About the hyperactivity, he's not really hyperactive, but it seems that whenever he's excited he goes hyperactive. Otherwise, he's really a shareef boy.
**Musicmaniac - **thanks for the advice. We try our best not to give pepsi or caffine drinks to him.But yes, he takes sugar in the form of biscuits, juice, honey. I try my best to keep him away from chocolates/sweets. But then again, he's just a kid. I only give him sweets as a reward.
Yeah I do punish him sometimes, and its amazing to see his response. He feels embarrassed, and that just makes my heart melt.
**Muzna - **Well, I am thinking of start his pre-school nursery in coming days. We are trying to find out some good nursery over here. Well, his routine at home is quite boring. He plays with his toys, rides his bike and watches TV. We take him out at night to a park. where he can play freely with other kids, and ride his bike. But the thing is our building is on the highway and there is no park nearby. And I avoid taking him out on my own because of his hyper nature.
But he doesnt sleep during the day, he wakes up at 8/9 in the morning, and goes to bed around 10 at night.
As far as the hyperactivity etc....3 is a really, really tough age and my middle son went thru the same thing. We discovered that he really wasnt getting enough attention. 3 yr olds need constant attention, positive reinforcement and love. Really constant. My boy was much like yours but in addition, he was biting his fingernails to chopmeat and having major tantrums. My eldest boy has some troubles so its necessary to give him much attention and my middle boy was getting less. Once we figured that out and started giving him more, he improved by leaps and bounds. He also outgrew the horrible stage of "being 3" (I think 3 is MUCH worse than the so-called "terrible 2's!!!". He no longer bites his nails and no longer has the tantrums. At age 3, they're old enough to listen so when he's doing something wrong, find something else that he would enjoy doing (re-direction). This works wonders although it can be very tiring at first. But in the long run, its well worth the effort. Also, when he's having troubles listening or having a tantrum, calmly tell him that you dont understand him when he's being too loud and crying. So stop crying, tell me whats wrong and we'll fix it together. That works like a charm, especially once he sees that things actually DO get fixed when he doesnt cry, whine or scream.
I hope this helps....I know its a really tough thing to go thru, but it DOES get better!
They show that show also here in Holland :) I think if she watch that show
SuperNanny that she will find a way out Insh'Allah ;)
and i hope that cheers you up
