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My mind...?
hahaha
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^ not true...
i found my hubby's personally very attractive before i even met him. I had pretty much decided that he was the one before we met.. it had nothing to do with looks..
plus u have good days, bad days.. and really really bad days when u just look all scraggy.. but the chemistry, connection, love and everything is still there
i know many couples who didnt find each other attractive at all before they got married... or engaged i should say, but now they are happily married and find each other completely beautiful..
there are superficial people in this world.. but there are a lot more genuine ones out there
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Congratz on being the lucky one but majority of the world does not work that way and my thread is in general, which is a fact, but people just do not accept it.
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im no exception.... most couples i know have similar relationships
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ME and hubby we have too much in common and we are very well though u have bad and good days in life its very normal
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Every time someone uses this word, it is about shared attraction. This has to be based on looks because that is the first thing someone notice and than move towards personality, which by the way is a learning experience meaning when someone says “it takes time”, time does not have a specific timetable.
Some people contend that there is more to it than this, but I honestly do not see how that is possible. You could claim it has to do with character, but if you've just met someone (such as in an approach situation), it's visibly all about looks.
The point is no matter how grown up people claim to be, they are still in high school when it comes to love.
This is a great post and has potential for a great discussion ONLY if people are not stuck in high school. :D
'Chemistry' means different things to different people. Only you know what's chemistry to you.
Initial 'chemistry' is not a determinant of a healthy, fulfilling relationship.
Standards of romance, love, and preferences in partners for youngsters are set by:
- society/pop culture/media
- family/uncles and aunties
- peers.
Most people in thier early to late 20s are automatons, see 3 above.
Peer/societal pressure is a bych hence people often delude themselves into thinking that THEIR independent choices are truly their own, see 3 above.
People who march to their drummer are rare and if you are one of them and have broken thru #3, congratulations!
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Some poeple are either delusional or chat so much bull.
Regardless, chemistry is that magic spark that attracts both couples to each other mutually. looks DO count, however I doubt the initial impression has a longevity of twenty+ years etc. It is (as sadzz mentioned) a connection. i would say it goes beyond a mental connection.
In my humble hippy-esque existence I have chosen to explain it away by saying it is the way poeple resonate with one annother. When you totally click with someone, it is a result of your individual wavelenghts meeting as to cause maximum amplitude - everything is perfectly matched ie your aura and so on. Thus you fall in love. With other people like friends - the wavelenghts arent totally in sync, therefore the chemisty and so on is not so strong.
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Glad you found the topic interesting.
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What is Chemistry to you? I have been asking this question and the only thing I get is looks. So, there is no chemistry to begin with. Only relationships based on looks.
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It may not but it initializes it and people make the effort because of it.
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TV, peers and parents are a medium and that is the way 90% of public get to know each other.
I am just stating the obvious, it is for the world to admit it or explain to me what is chemistry? :halo:
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not JUST looks (faces and body). our bodies salso ecrete chemicals and these attract the opposite sex. women are more attracted to a certain kind of men during their menstrual cycle. i think its called pheromones?
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and what those certain kind of men be?
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that depends on an individual female's preferences :p
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^^ this one thinks she’s it!
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stop avoiding the fact sd, 90% of it is tall, handsome with some good muslces.
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im going to say yes but i am speaking for myself only.
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Chemistry in my opinion definitely isn't solely or even largely about looks.
It's all about communication and the level of mutual appreciation two people have of each others' company and the internal (emotional & psychological) satisfaction they get from being around each other.
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The generation of our parents, you simply cant compare their marriages against the marriages of today. We are much more demanding. We all want the best and also to be forgiven for all unforgivable mistakes. The daughters of today are hard working, well educated and god fearing women…we want our male to live up to same virtues. Our mothers might not have been financially strong, but we have a different kind of dependency…not financially…more emotionally or be my equal kinda buddy hubby.
Its like the painting above. You feel the chemistry like thunder when you communicate. You know instantly what the other is thinking. Its not about meeting or dating, but sharing or having same sort of core values. Its a meeting of the minds. Of caz, looks are always a big plus. But psychologically, people who are good looking, dint have the urge to proof anything. Others who lack good looks, make it up by having unbeatable degrees and extend in careers etc.
Love is over rated. Looks are just a mirror cracking in due time. A good noble soul is hard to find. Its all a Russian roulette, honestly. Take your chances…
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