checking out the larka - question for girls

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So what is involved in checking out a larka. What instruction do you pass on to your parents/siblings when they go checking out the larka for the first time.

Also, what do you /did you check out when larka hunting.

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Re: checking out the larka - question for girls

That he is what he claims to be essentially eg job, education etc. plus character , any previous marriages. If there are any previous marriages that he has disclosed, reason for divorce.

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Re: checking out the larka - question for girls

I asked about his likes/dislikes (Is he outgoing/friendly/interesting?), hobbies, career plans, where he wants to live in the near future, if his parents will be living with him, what his expectations are regarding a wife and if he cooks just to name a few. Overall though, it's not all about what you ask. You also have to judge them on their attitude, mannerisms and people skills. Good luck!

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For a larka you check if he has two legs, two hands, wings/feather quality, does he eat baajra, Aazan time pe deta hai? all that kinda stuff

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first meeting: Qualification,Work,Mannerism.
Mannerism are really important for me. whether he gets up to meet the elders like my father, my dada(when he was alive) or remain seated. the way he takes a look at me like if he's staring hard then its a put off. Also, once this guy who came, filled his plate with all the goodies we served them and really that was a complete turn off. Also, i don't appreciate this act of guys where they would take the glass full of drink/juice or a cup full of tea/coffee and then leave half of it. I mean can't you just ask for a separate glass or cup and take only which you can consume rather than wasting it? So yea, for me there's a lot of focus on mannerism of the guy.

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Re: checking out the larka - question for girls

Observe more and ask less because actions speak louder than words.

Observing points:
- How does he behave with his family members, especially women?
- How does he behave with your family members?
- How does he talk to you?
- What kind of questions does he ask you?
- Does he seem interested in whatever is going on or is it just a chore?
- etc etc

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Re: checking out the larka - question for girls

Please elaborate.

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Forget everything. Chances are during the 1 hour tea sitting, nobody is able to judge some one.
Technically its 1 hour:whole life, which does not make sense.

What you need is burkas, a friend you can trust, binoculars, and something which looks like this.

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Take him under surveillance, avoid patterns, alternate burqa colors and riksha walas.

you’ll know the truth soon enough.

if you get good at, you can start doing it professionally!

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When my hubby came round to ours, I had been at work and I was soo exhausted that I hardly asked him anything, only about his job. But then the 2nd meeting, I asked him a few more questions but our conversation really flowed, so it was less awkward questions more conversation and we established that we were on the same thinking level and decided to go ahead with it.

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Re: checking out the larka - question for girls

What did he ask you?

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If the conversation hadn't flowed so well would you have hesitated with proceeding further?

Sounds like you had quite an easy connection..

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Alhamdulillah, we had a very easy connection. It kind of freaked me out that we got on so well as I never had that with anyone else (and believe me, we've been looking for a while), but if it hadn't flowed, I'm not sure what I would have done...hmmmm

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it's usually the boys that go around hunting for potential brides.

which world do u live in where girls are doing this? must be uk?

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^Here in London it's not that uncommon..

I remember when my brother was looking we had lots of parents asking..

Equal opportunities and all that..

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this is what we really check out:

factor of how much: how much he makes, and how much gets to keep it to himself.
factor of three: atleast three inch taller than me, and within +3 of my current age.
factor of 6: thats for abs and looks
factor of values: is he ok with me wearing non-conservative, going out for sheesha with friends, and not pay much attention to religion?
factor of acceptance: can he accept me with a past with boyfriends
factor of relocation: can he relocate to somewhere else, not from his parents home, but outside pakistan.

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s well
its getting common in pakistan now a

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Not a whole lot. My folks did most of the asking since he didn't bring his parents with him (we live in separate countries). He mentioned he wanted his parents to stay with us in the long run (as in not right away, but whenever they're ready to retire) and asked if I was alright with that. Other than that, it was just casual conversation.